Sex is cool but have you ever been in love?

If you are familiar with a famous band named The 1975, they have a song titled Be My Mistake -and there is a lyric from that song that says "You do make me hard but she makes me weak". Now, we'll have a deep conversation about this.

Most people tend to think that having physical contact could fix a relationship, or by being naked and letting your significant others goes under your garments could make them stay. According to Karen Horney (Horn-eye) that's not how things work. She argued Sigmund Freud's claim that sex is a governing factor. For her, people are not motivated by sexually aggressive forces but by the needs of security and love (D. Schultz & S. E Schultz, (2009)Theories of Personalities (10th Ed.)). Sending nudes is never proof of being submissive, as well as asking for it is never considered as testing of love.

Trust and love make our partners feel secure. It's never the physical contact, it's never the position or anything related to it. Sex is pleasurable but being love and loving the same person that loved you will give you a peaceful night and a healthy mind.

I am writing this not to deprived anyone or judge anyone, I am writing this for everyone to know that there is Karen Horney who has boldly pinpoint what makes a relationship work.

Now, let me ask you, sex is cool but have you ever been in love?