A very bad place to is a place where you're in a mental competition with friends and colleagues. You weren't born with anyone, so you do your own thing your own way. Don't be a victim of unhealthy competition. If you apply too much pressure where you agent supposed to, you might get it wrong. Different foods have different length of hours before they're properly cooked. You don't expect to beans to be cooked at the same rate at which rice is cooked. Of course the rice would get soft quicker than the beans would. This same cycle is seen in real life.
Most times when we see our mates making it big at a young age, we feel we're not doing enough. Sometimes you might not be doing enough, but most times, that's how life just panned out to be. He got his chance and he used it. Your own chance is gonna come. If you stay in that place of unhealthy mental competition your friends, it can breed jealousy, and jealousy when full blown can bring anger which can also lead to wrath. Your mind would have been polluted before you even know it. Everyone has their own time to manifest.
Rather than being in an unhealthy mental competition, let that mindset be turned to motivation. Yes!! Let there success, failures and every other thing motivate you. It should act as a form of motivation for you to do better. For you to know the mistakes they made and try to avoid them. For you to know the path they followed and the right character they put forth for them to achieve what they have. You don't have to be the richest on that circle before you know you're successful. You just have to be in a place where you can boldly say, "I have put in my ideas and made good use of my gifts, and I'm proud of the results".
Don't be that person whom the first question you'd ask a friend after seeing him for after a long time would be, " What are you doing now?"
"Where do you work"?
" Do you have your own business "?
Those kind of questions implies that you wanna know if that friend is way ahead of you in life or you are better than him so you can feel good about yourself. If my friend asks me that kind of question when we meet after a long time, I wouldn't trust that friend again. When that kind of question is asked, you might be putting the person being asked in a position where he or she would have to lie because they might still be struggling with life. That has made so many people to live a fake life. And you as a person, don't live a fake life to show that you're also doing well. Be yourself, but always push to be better. Don't push to be better because you want to prove a point, push to be better because being better is a good thing.
If you're surrounded with people who like unhealthy mental relationships, let them feel like they've won. Don't follow them into that competition. When they keep bragging about what they've achieved, let them know you're happy for them. You're actually doing them a favour because if you tell them how successful you are, they would develop a bitter heart and that competition would increase in their hearts which would lead to them doing something they're not supposed to.
Remember, let others successes be a form of motivation and not competition to you.
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