A new World
*I missed the time where I was free ,*
*To hug someone I seldom see.*
*To tap a friend when I roam around,*
*Where no danger from an enemy abounds.*
*Chatting with friends by group was okay,*
*Same with walking side by side in the alley.*
*I attended social gatherings confidently,*
*Have some fun and enjoy endlessly.*
*Now an enemy changed everything.*
*Everyone you see seems strangers passing.*
*Faces covered, smiles are hidden,*
*Nodding, a way of recognition.*
*I travel to places anytime when I wanted to*
*And discover new places without so much ado.*
*Now a piece of paper I need to show.*
*Before I can enter a place and go.*
*I used to feel the wind in my face,*
*during my travels here and in every place.*
*Now I'm sad, I can't continue*
*The things in which I usually do.*
*No shaking of hands,*
*Masks and faceshields in demand.*
*Sanitizers and alcohols*
*Sold like peanuts in many establishments.*
*Fear surges deep within me,*
*What's this that I see?*
*My fellow, caught by an enemy*
*What if it also caught my family and me?*
*My beloved land, once stands proudly*
*Why now, bowing suddenly?*
*The enemy we once put down,*
*Came back with a stronger weapon.*
*My land, my dear land, I plea*
*Chin high don't dwell on negativity.*
*I know you were aghast*
*On what's happening,for it's too fast.*
*Banking on what's happening around.*
*We need to stand our ground.*
*Don't let this little demon make us fall,*
*Let's win this battle once and for all,*
*Let's all response to unity's call*
*To triumph let us all claim ,*
*We won our battle once,This time, we'll win it once more!*
**JB83 01/31/21**
The Wrong Assumption
The hut has been silent for so long. What's more mysterious in the house was the light was lit during night time. No activities in the house can be observed but only the kids playing and going to school every day. Neighbours are getting curious what's going on inside. They tried to ask for the kids' parents but they barely answer and just say their parents are resting.
It is a small nipa hut. Situated in the middle of vast land with fruit trees that barricade the area. Roofs are made of woven coconut leaves. The walls are made of woven reeds.
It started a few months ago. The family of that hut was once lively. Though they are poor they are the picture of a happy family. It was known that they had rich relatives but they seem to treat them badly. They even tried to overthrew the family out of their home. They are interested in the land they are living in. But the father of the house stood firm and reached for his bolo and instead he drove the greedy relatives away. From that moment, they always saw the father sitting under the mango tree and seems buried in deep thought. After a few days, they never saw the couple again.
After a few months, the neighbourhood started to notice the presence of the couple. They were both pale and that makes them strange. Rumours circulated the entire place that the couple turned to sorcerers. It is believed that they made rituals to the darkness at night that's why the light in their hut is still on until dawn while they sleep during daytime. The change in their physical appearance likewise added to the evidence.
People are keeping a distance from the family from that day onwards. They are ever watchful and alert at night. They often feel goosebumps when dogs howl in the evening. The children of that family even received negative treatment from their fellow children as they got warnings from their parents not to get close to any member of the family.
But a few days passed since the appearance of the couple, their private place was suddenly visited by strangers. They wore formal suits with neckties, pointing here and there, and walking back and forth stretching a line from one point of location to another.
Not long after, the place again was disturbed by huge trucks loading construction materials. People keep asking where did it come from. The materials were unloaded in their mysterious neighbours' land. Then, the area was barricaded with high temporary galvanized walls. Everyone was curious what's going on inside. They assumed that the family was successfully overthrown outside their property and the greedy ones responsible for this transformation.
In one blink of an eye, a big house was erected.
The whole village was stunned by the extent of it.
When the construction was done, the beauty of the house was evident. A grand feast was held in the wide lawn. All the people in the village was summoned to attend the gathering. The owner was still the once poor family much to their surprise. They don't look pale anymore.
Until the end, it was unknown to the people how the great house came to exist and how the once miserable family became prosperous. But rumours were percolated that the reason behind the absence of the couple for how many days and months were they excavated underground and mined a long-hidden wealth under their hut. It was also the reason why relatives are much interested in the property. Especially the wealth that lies under the earth.
My Dear-
I had known her for so long. She resembles the person I loved most. She resembles a part of me. Once she is just a little doll that fits my palms. She always broke the nights with her shrill cries. But she's quiet and curls like a snail during the daytime. How unpredictable she was all those times.
The first time I held her in my arms she seems to slip away so I was afraid to hold her even I wanted to. But now she is independent even without me holding her.
I was excited to hear her first words and call me daddy when all I could hear was babbling and giggles. When today she talks a lot about anything without pretense.
It was exciting to see her walk her first tiny steps from crawling and stumbling. When today she travels to places without your guide.
It was exciting to see her go to preschool with her little teddy backpack. When today she comes and leaves home anytime.
I can't foresee what her future might be. But as a father, I wanted it to be remarkable and hope she will be happy.
What task she might be fulfilling. Whatever road she might take, whatever decision she might choose. In my heart, she would be intelligent enough to determine what is favorable and inappropriate.
I may have doubts in my heart but I can't show it to her for fear she might reflect it and will destroy her confidence in carrying her quest.
For now, I can't believe she has grown so fast. She's not that cry baby anymore. She's tough and sharp and can reason out and defend herself. But I fear somehow, that no matter how tough you are there will come a time your weakness will be put to the test. That time I hope she will be tough enough to face it on her own. However, I will not refuse if she will need my assistance.
New normal
I salute all parents who were able to pass the first and 2nd week of war against paper! Maybe you are wondering what am I talking about?
This past few weeks was the first release of modules to public schools in our country. I observed that lots of parents are having a tough time in aiding their children with their modules. As per the subject, the content is too much for a child to flip through it and comprehend in one sitting only. It's an advantage if the child can read and write so it's a bit helpful to make the learning procedure a bit faster. But the problem arises when the child can't understand what he is reading. This will be the time when a mother or a father will enter into the situation and assist the child in understanding his lesson. Another but... What if the parents are busy like they have work, what would happen to the child? Or the parent lacks education? This would be another problem. This situation is a scenario of the new normal in our country.
I heard numerous complaints about this modular activity. Mothers are stressed because their child is having difficulty in comprehending the lesson. Others have numerous children so the guardians are like ping pong balls who go back and forth entertaining the kids left and right with the house chores left unattended.
One thing more,parents do multitasking by going to school by collecting the modules in one day and submitting the packets another day so they consume 2 days of time wasting of retrieval and submitting only.
Kids do overlap other schedules also if they weren't able to finish the one they are answering. The next one overlaps the other and so on and so forth. It makes the children missed their playtime and recreation. The next will be boredom.
It's not an easy task to become a parent. It becomes a challenge as a parent and it would be his or her initiative how they can come out with a solution regarding the situation. But as I observe, this modular activity just adds a burden to some parents. In our place, people here are so industrious, during the lockdowns, they were able to do their daily activity on the farm and not being affected by the pandemic at all. They farmed and made more plots of gardens in wide areas than usual. But after the modular class started, they weren't able to tend to their weedings anymore because they need to stay home to assist their children. How can they survive then if they will not be able to take care of their farms?. How can they survive in this pandemic if they have no supplementary source of food supply. Childrens' modules whose parents have no education are being returned because it was unaccomplished. No one to ask for help because everybody is having their own modules also. How can they learn in this situation?.
So it's the negative effect of this new normal as I observed here in our place.
Expectations over marriage
"Wow how beautiful she is, I feel so heavenly in love, I can't wait to get married!"
"She's boring, she doesn't know how to please me,! I can't wait for this marriage to end!."
These statements were mostly said by what they call love at first sight from the same person. The first statement was made by him when he's still single while the second one was when he got married. He then realizes that he made the wrong decision.
What happened to these couples? Should they be living happily ever after? What can you do to prevent a wonderful relation to become an annoying marriage and becoming a nightmare?
Remember that in every marriage there is always tension. May it be the the the the the the the cause of financial, material, emotional, physical, and spiritual.
The couple is not made to be similar, though they have similarities in any way, they are still imperfect. So occasionally, couples will have conflicts, no matter how compatible they seem. Sometimes they may even say awful things that they regret later. “A person who never said anything wrong. Nonetheless, positive-minded couples can prevent and having misunderstanding to prevail for so long. They learn to talk over and straighten the curve within their relationship in a short period of time before it becomes greater and more complicated to resolve.
A couple is like a team consisting of two players. Each player has an important role as a player in order to win the game. What game? Well, their marriage. Each one of the couples must do his/her part and responsibility in order to have a successful marriage.
Do not expect too much. Always expect the unexpected. Marriage is not full of bliss. It will become boring if you don't undergo some misconceptions throughout your journey as a couple. Occasionally, there are some couples that realize that they are less better than the other pairs. They tend to compare their relationship to the other couples which they think is much better and living more blissfully than them.
Similarly, if one of the pairs was disillusioned and compares their partners to the others which they believe to be more satisfactory like their looks, attitude, and goals than their partner and that she/he apparently should be one too. This will trigger them to give less value to their pair and insecurities will arise. This is not a proper way to value your pair. If you wanted him/her to be like someone else then you don't love him/her at all. Learn to accept him/her the way she is.
But in some cases, if your partner is an addict, a drunkard, a womanizer, a lazy glutton, and does not know how to raise a family, that is another story. You can try to talk to your pair nicely about that matter. Give them a chance to change their behavior, a chance to become a better person not to spoil them. Do not forget to PRAY. In any case of problems, you should not forget to pray. However, if that chance was abused, a heavy decision you must bring down.
Just remember that in a marriage, as you go along with your journey, you will learn a lot of imperfections of your partner but you may discover plenty of his/her good qualities as well. Just acknowledge it as a part of married life and get used to it.
This is just a part of a marital journey. There is a lot to be discussed but I just mentioned a part of it.
Happy reading.
Money handling
Did you know that MONEY is one of the most difficult problem between couples? Others can't talk about it in a nice way that it triggers to a heated arguments.
If the couple is having an unbalance view of money , they might suffer stress, conflict and emotional and even spiritual destruction.
If a parent doesn't know how to handle money they will be force to work more harder and overlook their childrens emotional and spiritual guidance because they are concentrated to gain more.They even served a bad example to their children about being unreasonable about money.
Money can destroy marriage, if a couple don't know how to control how to handle money matters it will be root of marital arguments. However if money matters are dicussed calmly it will help strengthen the relationship bond of the couple.
Main reason why couples oftentimes argue about money is because of lack of faith towards their partner. If a husband always demands the way his wife is spending every cent, it will create mistrust and the wife will feel that she receives lack of trust from her partner and feels incompetent in handling over their finances. Likewise with the wife if she is always complaining that her husband cannot earn much for their family needs shows expression of fear that they won't survive makes the husband feel that likewise he's incompetent of raising his family.
You do not have to wait until a problem arises before you talk about money. You can discuss it freely. Sometimes during meals if everyone is busy or during bedtimes.
As a breadwinner you must not view your salary and income as your own but consider it as your family's. So you should value the way your wife in handling your money. Sometimes its good to ask for the wife to jot down everything she purchased for the family's needs and do the purchase yourself. That way you can learn how money flows as you can learn the prices of the things and neccesities needed at home. Then you will not be surprised that money has no value nowadays. You can't buy bulk items in a 10$ bill.
On the other hand if you are both earning with your spouse then you can discuss together how you can save from your savings. Try to track down your expenses and keep an extra for emergency cases and for your savings. It really good to spend you know but you don't know what future may bring.
Do not insist on purchasing large amount of furnitures or any out of the budget matters as it will cause your budget to fluctuate. You will have problem on it afterwards. Be sure to listen to both opinions as it will serve as a foundation of trust. Share the loads as a partner and remember to listen to one' sentiment. Don't consider this as a little thing because its more than life and death.
The end... Thanks f0r reading people.
@Jb83
Struggle is friend
Everyday, we face different struggles in life. Some are easy while some are difficult. Other commits suicide because they can't handle the burden and gave up easily. Never we know that life will *never* be called enjoyable if we don't suffer. Life will never be blissful if their's no sacrifices and hardships or trials. We can never know what happiness feels like if we don't endure pain.
Struggle is friend, it doesn't leave us no matter what we are doing and wherever we go. Before we succeed, struggle stays beside us and gives us and serves as trials and gives more motivation in order for us to stay focused. Struggles helps us focused in reaching our goal and you should never give up so that you won't face failure again. It leads you to become better one.
It's just a matter on how you treat struggles in your life. If you treat it well, you will get to know its value. But if you treat it badly and acknowledge its negativity only, your life will become a mess.
Thank you for those who give time reading this article of mine.
This is @Jb83 have a good day😊😊😊.
I Am a father
Hello guys... I am @Jb83 a new user in read.cash. As i typed this article.. i am at the same time introducing myself. It took me days to understand how to run here. And here is my very first post..
I have been a father for 15 years and am proud to be one,I married young but i stand my ground. I did not ran away from my obligations but i faced it with my chin up high. I never fret when my back aches and the heat of the sun burns my skin. Complaining is not in my vocabulary coz i know it doesn't help a bit. I have a baby and her mother that needs to be fed.
For so long i endured the laborious jobs and heavy loads of being a father but in my heart i desire a comfortable one also. I can't be choosy because i'm lack of education. How can i go to school when im a product of poverty. Still i want a better future for my children. I will persistently hold on to my dream as i can feel that God is watching me and he can see my sufferings.
I'm thankful for the peaceful nights i have during my sleep. For the sweet smile of my wife and children when i arrive home. For the good health i am having even i overworked and always forget the time.
When i look at my children grow into a young lady and a young man. I am proud i never let go of them. They are my treasures no one has in the world. And my sunlight when i'm the verge of darkness. I just wish they can find better someone like me.
I can't barter my children to anything even heaps of gold be that thing.
Hi.. im just new here in read.cash. im hoping for a welcome from the old ones .. i find this a good earning site. Thanks for the one who invited me here . Am looking forward to find new friends here.. though im a busy man ill find time to interact with the community...
Hello guys .. im just new here... As in just now... Hope im welcome... Im in a place where net is so frustrating but i will try to interact with you as much as i can.😊
@Jb83