When you live in a relationship you must confront several challenges, the most common one is monotony, relationships end up falling apart when they are immersed in a world that practically revolves and remains the same, that is, every day seems to be the same, there is no change and as time does not forgive it ends up ending the relationship. Every person who is in a relationship is exposed to suffer this common evil among them, many of the reasons why it happens are unconsciously, people stop doing what once made them different from the rest, leaving aside, details, surprises, games and even incalculable mist ... many people end up falling into this vicious circle which is very difficult to get out after it is inside.
WHY DOES IT HAPPEN?
Those people who are used to lead a life full of habits are the most prone to suffer this type of circumstances, all because it is difficult for them to break the routine and to be able to try a little spontaneity. Being able to lead a life in which every day you do not have to do the same thing breaks this curse, that is why it is important to know when to change and do new things, many people are so routine that they are the most similar to a robot, they do everything systematized and being unconscious of their behaviour pattern they end up missing the best of a relationship.
I have as an example a situation that happened to me, more than 7 years ago I was dating a guy, I could say that there was nothing wrong with him, he was quite nice, he had a lovely personality and an enviable physique, but he lacked something very important, the spontaneity of a person, the first date, he took me to a very luxurious restaurant, At that moment I really felt that this guy could be the perfect candidate for me, as the night went on I got to know a little bit about his personality, his routines and even his past relationships, until that moment for me everything was fine, it is normal to listen to someone's past, what was not normal is that when he referred to his daily routine practically every day was the same. Trying to ignore this observation I decided to go ahead, little by little I got to know much more about this person.... One day we met in the park and he invited me to eat again, without thinking I said yes, so when the time came we went out, to my surprise we arrived at the same restaurant as last night, it seemed quite strange and I didn't want to seem rude and I didn't mention anything, the hours passed and that night seemed exactly like the previous one. After several days, he invited me again to eat, this time I wanted to be the one to manage the rules, I decided to go to another place but, he objected and said that he didn't like the place, then I wanted to ask him if he had any suggestion, he answered me that the restaurant of the other night, I couldn't stand it anymore and I told him that it seemed boring to go always to the same place, to my surprise his answer was very clear, - if you like it fine, if not it doesn't matter, I like to do what I already know. I wanted to be sincere and I told him that I didn't think it was worth trying something that I knew was going to be his destiny.
From that moment on I now take things calmly, looking for a relationship does not deserve to be taken lightly, people should know well where they want to get into, first it is good to inspect the area and based on a previous knowledge to move forward... I learned that for everything there is time and if we do not want to end up immersed in this vicious circle we must be very cautious.
So we can conclude that every routine person adapted to live only in their comfort zone ends up having problems to get out of it and venture into the unknown. I have always liked to talk about this kind of subject, maybe because it is common to observe people so square-minded and like the movies of the 50's, they like to live in black and white. We must seek to have more colours in our life, having a little excitement awakens the senses and activates our desire to keep on knowing new things.
Now then. Let's also talk about those people who are spontaneous, perhaps a life with many adventures, they are people who do not think twice to change the routine and do new things, this type of people are characterized by being very enthusiastic, they are very extroverted people, spontaneity has nothing to do with doing clever things, dear readers, do not be afraid to be transparent to show ourselves as we are will help us to be emotionally healthy people.
Spontaneity helps to relate much simpler, the ability of the person to always be the same without pretending something that is not, the energy that this person transmits, all that conglomerate of sensations overflowing by the spontaneous person is received by who relates, so simple acts spontaneity, how easy it is for these people to live a life free of doubts and false masks.
It is also important to take into account the way in which we try to interact, many people do not know the difference between, ask a question regarding an invitation, for example, "Where are we going?", "choose you", guys take the wheel of your relationship, instead of asking, take the initiative and offer to go somewhere, the important thing is to note that you already had fixed somewhere and above all it was you who decided to take the first step.
Today I have a partner that I can not demand anything more, every day for me is so different that I have no similarity with the previous one despite living in the same place and live together every day, although it seems lie is good that in a relationship every day is an attempt more to seduce, conquer, have fun, even sleep in a place outside their usual place notoriously helps to not fall into that straight line and without magic that they call monotony.
when a couple is sure of themselves, they are not afraid to enjoy new things, to know and above all to experiment, no matter that the sensation of happiness and ecstasy that is felt when doing new things is incomparable, that is why the importance of being dynamic beings capable of adapting to everything and above all committed to make every day different in order to avoid falling into that dark hole.
Practising spontaneity as a couple is also useful, it is no secret that there are people who can change their habits is almost impossible, with a lot of love and mutual trust these barriers are broken, we must understand that the difference is total when the results are different.
Tips that can help you become more spontaneous
It is probably not easy for you to recognise when to follow your intuition, what I can tell you is that you just have to let everything flow and it will happen by itself, again I touch on the subject of trust, a person who trusts in their abilities and skills has very little fear of messing up,
Our self-esteem also plays an important role in our spontaneity, a person with a high or normal self-esteem, will not have a major problem when making decisions, probably because it does not affect their self-confidence, it is very important that we are always aware of anything we are going to do.
the previous experience that a person has about anything is decisive to give a real assessment at the time of exercising it, so it is important to be in constant social interaction in this way we enhance the development of communication allowing to have a greater skill when communicating.
to leave our place of comfort, I believe that it happens to all of us, it is normal to feel a bit of fear when leaving what we are normally used to, the important thing about leaving our place of comfort is the benefits at a personal level, a person with the capacity to adapt to different places, however different they may be, develops greater self-confidence in themselves, their spontaneity will not be affected.
comfort often binds us, how difficult it is to leave the phone for an afternoon or to change our daily routine, making a change generates a positive response in the spontaneous subject,
learning to confront our fears, like the demons of the mysterious stories, our personal fears become an obstacle to being spontaneous people, becoming aware and knowing when to confront them is a person capable of being spontaneous.
Each person has a personality that makes them unique, each person has their own demons, some people are afraid to speak in a group and avoid making a comment, they are withdrawn people who find it difficult to say something for fear of being told something, so the importance of being a little extroverted and being able to hold a conversation with a person without running away for fear of not being accepted for an unknown reason.
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