Relationship

Well, so I was able to have a little talk with a friend (it was more like an interview though.... Lol😂) and decided to share with you my read cash family 🤗🤗... Hope you learn something from it

When I was young, I thought all married couples just get up then boom, they are married. Then when I was 12, I told myself that I will not engage in any relationship until I’m 25 so that I get married and live happily ever after with my husband. Some years after, I accepted someone’s proposal and started dating. It was thrilling and exciting at first until I realised that the only motive was sex💔. It happened in my second and third relationships, and it got me thinking🤔🤔 ; "what happened to getting to know each other well"? With experience, I realised that because our generation is mostly naïve about relationships, we tend to make mistakes that sometimes leave scars for life😓. These are five things to ponder about before starting a relationship. 

Be emotionally strong and stable🧍: Every human has strengths and flaws. People always say before you start courting (or dating as termed in my country) someone, know the person and blah, blah, blah………. It will surprise you to know that most of these people don’t get the happily ever after they are looking for but rather split up after a year or two. This should tell you that the phrase “get to know someone better” is narrow-minded and should be reviewed. One of the factors that constitute a happy relationship is the ability to remain strong emotionally. You should be ready to face anything that comes your way. You should expect everything ranging from happy moments to disappointing moments because people change with time and that’s why it’s easier to say “this person is not the same person I knew when we were young”. When you are emotionally strong, these behaviours from people doesn’t cause you to lose your mind but rather it causes you to think everything through; get to know when, how, and why that person is behaving that way. And it also helps you to know whether you should continue with the relationship, back out of the relationship or start a relationship in the first place. 

Know the temperaments🤗😟😠🥴: Most people in relationships know nothing about temperaments. All they tell you when you ask about their partners are; he is handsome/ she is beautiful; he/she is nice among others. Once you ask about temperaments, they give you a blank stare and the next question is “what has that got to do with my relationship”. Every human has basic/natural characteristics that he/she cannot change be it positive or negative. They are born with it and they will die with it. These basic characteristics are known as TEMPERAMENTS. They define a person, that is why someone will say “my partner gets angry easily” or “my partner is the most easy-going person I know”. There are four types of temperaments. These are; Sanguine😁, Choleric😠, Melancholy😒 and Phlegmatic🥴. You will get to know the behaviours, strengths💪👍 and flaws👎 of each in-SPIRIT- CONTROLLEDTEMPERAMENT- by Tim LaHaye.

Expect the worst💔; You should understand that a relationship without problems is PRETENSE. Just as life has it’s positive and negative turns, so is relationship. Don’t expect to experience happy moments all the time, because at some point there will be suffering. In a relationship, consider yourself as an entrepreneur. An entrepreneur is ready to face risk, loss, maximize output, make profit and expand their business. A relationship is like a business; therefore, it contains all these factors. Only when you consider   your relationship to be a business and you an entrepreneur will you have a successful relationship, because you are prepared and so nothing takes you by surprise. The quote “he who runsaway from a fight lives to fightanother day” is a lesson that should inform you that if you leave one relationship to another because of problems, you will face similar ones or ones that are more than the previous one.

Be time conscious🕛🕕: A relationship is like a ship🛳️ sailing. Once it passes by a destination🧭, it is difficult to turn back. And once it is late to move out of reach of an obstacle, it faces the consequences of the crew’s actions. So many relationships do not get their happily ever after due to this reason. No individual wants a partner who is late to everything. With the knowledge that lateness to work or a job interview can cause you to lose your job is the same way lateness to family dinners or dates can cause you to lose your relationship👫. So, beware because “time and tide wait for no man”. Be able to manage your time wisely so as to have time for everything and prevent lateness.  

Above all, be GOD FEARING🙏🙏. Your main inspiration should be your god or deity or whatever that you believe in. For Christians, take everything to GOD in prayer because it is only HIM who make and unmake. Without HIM, your relationship will be naught. Just say to HIM, O LORD to YOU do I dedicate this relationship, and see the difference between the recent and previous relationships. If it is your first relationship, you will be shocked to see how a relationship works with GOD in it. Same applies to Muslims, Atheists, Buddhists and every other religion, commit your relationship to whoever you believe in and you will be surprised how far your relationship will go.

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