Why you need to let go of some attitudes

There are some attitudes that aren’t worth exhibiting at all. Attitude that makes you look dumb in the presence of others and even deep within you. One of such attitudes is “poke nosing”.

You really need to make conscious efforts to drop that silly attitude. It limits your personal growth drastically in all ramifications of your life.

That is just the plain bitter truth! I know the question that might be bugging your mind right now is: How does poke nosing stunts my personal growth? Well, you should know that when you are in the business of constantly monitoring people’s daily life like what they are eating daily, who they are friends with, the health status of their families, what clothes they are wearing etc, you pay way less attention to the area(s) you are presently lacking in in your life.

You give huge attention to people’s daily lives to your great detriment. Perhaps you just exited an abusive relationship, you are now so keen to know how your neighbor’s relationship is faring.

You get satisfied wholeheartedly if peradventure your neighbor’s relationship is unstable or has crashed totally.

Speaking experiential, a neighbor of mine way back in 2008 nearly lost her daughter owing to her carelessness which is a byproduct of her annoying poke nosing attitude.

What happened was that, she was supposed to pick her 9 years old daughter from school that fateful day.

As she was stepping out of her room, she saw her next door male neighbor walked into the yard with a lady. She quietly walked back inside her home and hurried to her window directly opposite to this neighbor’s home. She was making efforts to see whether there will be any carnal thing going to happen.

This lasted for about 4 hours and so she was carried away forgetting her primary duty to pick her daughter up from school.

The young 9 year old student seeing that it was getting dark and after waiting for so long for her mom to come pick her up, decided to head home by herself. As she was about to cross the road, a car nearly knock her down.

Had it not been that the driver was fast enough to maneuver the car, it would have been a deadly accident. So much for reckless poke nosing by a so-called mother.

Poke nosing never helped anybody. Make up your mind not to ask people terrible questions like why are you so fat/slim, when are you getting married? When are you having children and so on? They are unnecessary.

Some people are already going through enough pressure from life, society, and family and there you come with your questions again.

I know sometimes you ask out of genuine concern, but hey, you don't need to ask. Allow people to enjoy their singleness and body size in peace. Singleness is bliss!

That brother or sister might just be getting out of a terrible relationship and there you go asking when they are getting married. That in itself is traumatic.

That overweight young man is probably having a hard time already and there you go asking insensitive questions like when are you going to lose weight?

This coming year, you need to apply a lot of emotional intelligence, especially when dealing with people.

Allow the singles and let them enjoy their singleness. Leave those who are still waiting for the fruit of the womb alone. Stop asking them if they have seen good doctors. Just so you know, it’s not supposed to be your concern.

If you care about them so much, pray for them in your secret place. If they need your advice or they need to talk to you, I'm sure they will come to you. If they don’t, the world won’t vanish into thin air, would it? Of course your answer will be NO.

Go on with your daily life. After all, you have your own problems to worry about. The truth is people actually get uncomfortable when you poke your nose into their affairs. It is too bad.

If you do need to talk or ask insensitive questions, sing instead.

You just need to try to deal with people more with emotional intelligence.

If you don't know anything about it, go and learn. Focus on growing yourself. Don’t wait for your poke nosing attitude to land you in serious trouble before you stop it. Stay blessed!

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