What you ought to know about marriage

So many times, I've heard ladies talk about how they want to get married to a man like their father and some guys too want to get married to a woman like their mother - so caring and loving etc.

The truth is we forget that we are only seeing a version of our parents that have been worked upon over time. Probably it took them ten years or more to be molded into the kind of people they are today. Your father was probably an egocentric man before and even after getting married to your mother. But marriage remolded him to a better man. Your mom had to endure those days when he acted rudely and foolishly.

Your mother wasn't as caring and loving as she is today before your dad met her. Her family and friends knew her to be selfish and proud but your dad loved and patiently helped her become a better person.

Now you are looking for a finished product or a nearly finished product like your dad or mom. Yet you are still a work in progress.

You want a man with the same experience of life like your dad without looking at the age difference and how life has dealt with them differently. Your mother has grown to become a better wife. Something that wouldn't happen if she was single.

Marriage is a practical field. There's a level of growth(emotional stability) that may not happen while you are single. How do you handle the stress of work and the responsibility of family at the same time. How do you handle family crisis, carry a lot of burdens and still manage to smile through it all? As a parent, you are not only responsible for physical provisions for your family, you also have to be there for your family during emotional/psychological periods.

You all will agree with me that the married life is no child's play and that brings us to one important thing we all should know - There is no perfect marriage anywhere!

Marriage is simply two imperfect male and female coming together to work on their imperfections, thereby improving their lifestyles and that of their children.

So therefore be ready to put in the work like your parents did that made them better couples and stop looking for a finished product.

I bet if you met your dad or mom before they got married you wouldn't have desired to marry someone like them because you would see all the flaws they had then but have outgrown those flaws today.

Your dad probably was a broke man or semi broke before he met your mom but today you want the rich version of your dad. Just imagine your mom said no to your dad because he wasn't rich.

If you met your mom before she met your dad, I bet you would say she isn't your type.

Just think about it.

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