"She put a question forward to her boyfriend - "Dear, when will you get married?
A girl asked her boyfriend when he intends to settle down and he was surprised. She wanted to know where the relationship was heading to because she didn't intend to date forever. He felt pressured by such question. He wasn't ready to commit to marriage and he didn't know when he would be ready to commit. She was ready so she asked.
Some guys actually think that they are being pressured by their girlfriends if she brings the topic of marriage.
Hey ladies you must not forget to state what you want early enough to avoid wasting your time and resources.
Address issues like how long do you want to date or court.
I know some people might say there's no particular duration for how long a courtship should last but I also know that nobody wants to date or court forever - till eternity.
I know the most important thing is getting to know each other very well during courtship yet I also know it takes forever to know someone completely even married couples know this.
Don't be in a hurry to get married but also don't be in a relationship where nobody is thinking of marriage. If he isn't thinking of marriage anytime soon not even five years time please walk away. You will find a man whose timing is perfect with your timing. You will find a good man who would want to get married early enough like you want to and not someone who wants to "build a mansion" or "have millions in his account" before he settles down.
If after two years of courtship and he is not talking about marriage and you know he is well to do (has a job or growing business) you are free to walk away except you don't mind waiting till he is "ready" regardless of how long you wait.
Just don't feel bad talking about the future of the relationship. If your timing is different from his, then respect yourself and leave. Everybody will be fine Las Las.
Same applies to guys too. If you are ready to get married and she isn't and the time she is giving you doesn't work for you you can walk away without feeling guilty.
We must respect each others timing and desires.
Most importantly, may you not miss out on a good person simply because of your unwillingness to commit or unrealistic standards/expectations or goals
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