I recently married the love of my life on a hot Spring day in Palm Springs. Prior to the wedding it was a very stressful time in both of our lives. I was in the middle (still am!) of launching my online clothing boutique Vintage Valentine, while he was changing careers.
We managed to get through the blood, sweat, and occasional dispute over the nuptial planning, but there was something about our bohemian vibe that reminded me what we stood for as a couple.
What you stand for is such a vital ingredient to your personal and relational success. It's a question that can be difficult to answer without some thought, but it will remind you what you're here to do and who you're meant to have in your life for the long haul.
Most of our decisions come from situations that happened in the past--your past can help shape your present, but your present moment will help shape your future. Who are you today? To answer this question you can ask yourself, "what do I believe in?"
Your beliefs are sent out into the universe as little messages; they help bring people and circumstances to you that affirm those beliefs. It's a good idea to get in the habit of having positive beliefs, ones that are NOT "anti" this or "against" that. Finding the opposite of a negative belief is a better way to convey what you believe in because the universe can only give you what you ask for.
If you don't want a man who drinks too much, perhaps what you truly desire a man who is health conscious. You believe in being healthy and attracting those like-minded folks into you life who also believe this to be true.
Mother Teresa once said, "I was once asked why I don't participate in anti-war demonstrations. I said that I will never do that, but as soon as you have a pro-peace rally, I'll be there."
What you believe in and what you stand for are interchangeable and synonymous. When you can clearly define what you believe in, attracting what you want out of life simply becomes a series of positive thoughts!
As my husband and I married and went on with our lives as a married couple, what we stood for became very clear. We made goals for the future, but more importantly, we believed in the same things. We both believe strongly in trust, monogamy, and appreciate one another's work ethic.
Our wedding was a true representation of what we stood for as a couple: the ceremonial rite of passage that was quietly experienced, the vows we spoke, and the celebration we endured with family and friends. From the home cooked food to music that made our hearts sing, were just a few details that showcased what what we stood for.
As you are unlocking the doors to your hopes and desires look deeper than the surface and step outside the negative beliefs. Often times we forget to not judge others from what they look like on the outside, so instead take the time to get to know YOU and others from the inside out. You might be surprised to learn that someone you weren't initially attracted to believes in the same things you do.
Looking inside for the answer to what you stand for and who you want in your life that complements this part of you makes finding the perfect partner, unveiling your dharma, and understanding others on a deeper level. This truly is the magical formula for true success.