Dealing with Anger Issues

Anger is a strong emotion but it is to take note that this is just a secondary emotion, which means it is a result of some instance or happening. I often say that it’s easier to be angry than to deal with the real problem which is not good because this is not healthy and it does not solve anything – it could only worsen the situation.

In that way, anger becomes a defense mechanism because we feel that we’ve been robbed of something, we feel powerless and anger could only be the thing that makes us strong, though that isn’t really happening.

Anger is triggered by many things such as confusion, fear, pain, sadness, dissatisfaction, frustration, and many other things depending on the person.

When people are provoked, they are frequently unaware or they become clueless regarding the main feeling that underlies the angry response because anger substitutes that primary emotion before it is even recognized or acknowledged.

We can do many small things in order to deal with our anger issues but I think the best way to manage this is when we change something great in our life and our perspective. Living with anger could be burden to us. It could affect our relationships with others and destroy our inner peace.

Here are some ways on how to handle anger issues:

1. Take a timeout

Moving away from your current environment could help in realizing what has happened and it could also help in knowing your true self. When you determine your strengths and weaknesses, it could be beneficial in making some adjustments or changes on your character.

2. Practice how to stay calm and relaxed during tight situations

This is not easy because there are times that we are really unable to puzzle out the things that happen around us but a little practice could make a bigger change. When we feel that tension is going up or when things are not going the way you want it to be, you can try breathing exercises that would help you think better and also try to be in control of your mind.

3. Think before you speak

When we are angry, we often lose our control on our actions and words. Therefore, we must do our best to think in the most appropriate manner to avoid letting out words out of the box which might hurt other people or put us in a harder place like losing a job. There are things that are hard to take back.

4. Let go of your grudge

It may be hard to accept but we have to let go of the bitterness and hate. Our feelings, whatever it is, though it may be unrealistic, is valid, however, it is not something that we should keep and live with. Forgiveness and acceptance are two matters that are important in letting go.

It is normal to feel anger but it is not healthy to welcome it in our lives. If you think you have anger issues then maybe it is time to do something about it because when it grows big, it could affect us in a devastating way and do things we might regret.