IMPORTANT that marriage begins with our Creator, why so many failures? What can people do who really want their marriage to work?
The main causes of marriage breakdown are two areas. It is easier when the spouse ignores the laws and principles of marital happiness that God has given us in His inspired direction, the Bible. (2 Timothy 3:16, 17)
However, some will object, saying: "Why has the Bible been in 'Christian' countries for centuries and has it not prevented adultery?"
It is true. But there is a huge difference between having something and using it. You may have the most nutritious food in the world, but if you don't eat it, nothing good will enter your body. Just because you have the Bible that you read and cite it doesn't mean that no one keeps it. Therefore, when you see a marriage fail, make sure that one or both spouses have not applied God's laws and principles to the marriage.
Even people who do not read the Bible but accidentally follow a similar pattern will be more successful in marriage. Relying on the chance discovery of the key to a successful marriage is like boarding a ship without a captain or helmsman and expecting it to inadvertently make a detour to its intended destination. What you need to get to where you want to be is a skilled captain and a reliable coxswain. Likewise, God is the most knowledgeable person in the universe when it comes to human relationships, and his guidance is by far the most reliable.
Understanding Each Role
Success in marriage begins with realizing that God has created men and women for slightly different but complementary roles. It can be compared to a saw and a hammer. They differ in function, but both are necessary for successful construction.
Man was created for the leadership role as a guide and is obligated before God to exercise it in a way that reflects the attributes of God.There is no presidency, there will be disagreement and confusion. Unfortunately, many men have given up on this role and their wives are frustrated. But sometimes the problem is with a woman who is very aggressive and competitive and wants to take on the role of her husband. But when everyone works together in the roles assigned by God, there can be great harmony.
Different roles don't make a friend worse. Is a glass of water worse or better than a plate of good food? Both are vital. They have different roles but work together for the good of the body. Likewise, the right foundation is laid when the right leadership is taken and the woman works together and supports her leadership.
However, a man who wants a happy marriage does not take on the role of boss because he can be a dictator. This attitude will only provoke hostility in women. God never wanted a man to oppress his wife or put his life in slavery. Instead, God's standard is “Men should love their wives as their bodies” and be prepared to sacrifice themselves for them. - Ef. 5:25, 28.
Indeed, God's “plan” for a successful marriage says, “O men, live with them according to knowledge and give them glory like a weaker vessel, the feminine.This means taking into account one's opinions, likes and dislikes, and not belittling or corrupting them. This consideration must also include the sexual aspect of marriage. If a man strives to be a suitable "boss", his wife will not find a burden to be submissive when she has the right point of view.
A woman who does her part encourages her man to be a good face. When humble and submissive, she asks him for suggestions, doesn't compete with him, or even belittles him for making mistakes and consulting with him before making important decisions, making her role easier and funnier.Obviously, successful marriage means a lot more. For example, it is necessary to learn to deal with human shortcomings and errors, to allow free will, to express oneself correctly and to solve marital problems that arise. All of these questions can be answered successfully under the guidance that God has given us.
Be aware of the time
As mentioned above, neglect of God's guidelines for marriage is one of the leading causes of adultery. But now there is another factor. It has to do with where we are in time.
The Bible clearly identifies this generation as in its "last days" and brings with it "critical times that are difficult to navigate." The prophecy in 2 Timothy 3: 1-5 shows that our days would be marked by the fact that people would be in love with themselves, proud, ungrateful, disloyal, without natural affection and not open to union. , unlimited, treacherous, stubborn. , inflated with pride, lovers of pleasure instead of lovers of God. News reports confirm the daily fulfillment of this prophecy.
As we approach the end of this currently unsatisfactory system, human behavior is gradually deteriorating. This creates enormous pressure. This affects marriage, as spouses often put their frustrations aside.