The Real Face of Adjustment In Relationship

People are unique by nature. There is no such thing as completely the same person because scientifically even twins are not identical in personality. This is the greatest challenge in a relationship but also the most amazing part. Having a significant other is very influential in your life that it affects everything, as well as how you view your social realities.

A relationship is not only butterflies and sweet kisses, but a relationship is also filled with a lot of adjustments and you need to understand that despite you having a very synchronize feeling, the two of you are two different person and should develop individually. It is a very hard stage when you begin to discover each other's differences because accompanied with these are your political views, ideologies, beliefs, strengths, weaknesses, medical histories, trauma, and many more.

The way how you react to your significant other's differences will highly affect your relationship as well as how you handle yours. The stage of sweetness and butterflies will not last long but love will. Love will be able to help you understand the differences, love will help you find a way how to communicate effectively, and love will help you to adjust yourself to the needs of yourself and your partner. This is why it is very essential that you love the person first before deciding to have a relationship with that person. This may sound like stating the obvious but in today's generation young one's indulge with the relationship because of merely attraction and impulsiveness.

The adjustment will be very ugly that there will a lot of dramas and slamming of the door. It will make you cry and break down. It will make you question your self. See, being in a relationship is not same on the movie and fairy tales. This is about involving our selves and involving others to our lives. This is about letting a person know our depth and highs. This is about commitment that has deeper meaning. This is no longer about love letters or chocolates.

Adjustments is understanding your significant others family when you are very hard to understand, and not saying negative to them because you know one day you will eat with the. Adjustment is thinking the other person's well being first before yours. Adjustment is planning for two not only for you. Adjustments is breaking down some habits. Adjustents is letting go of some people.

-WriterJo