Trauma: -

Trauma is the reaction of the mind to a very large or deep injury. In this case psychological trauma has been mentioned.

Childhood Trauma: -

Over-discipline, neglect, abandonment of parents, physical abuse in childhood, if they continue for a long time, it makes a deep impression on the child's mind which later gives rise to fear or panic.

Unresolved Childhood Trauma: -

If this panic, which is born in the mind of the child, stays in the child's subconscious permanently and the child grows up with it, then he is a victim of unresolved trauma.

Since childhood trauma is not understood from the outside (because a child does not become aware of it). So it is often not cured. In addition, family members / close people are responsible for this trauma. That is the ghost in the mustard.

Fruit Mental Illness:

Psychological trauma gives rise to a feeling of intense neglect, disrespect and helplessness in a child. Over time, his tender affections, such as love and affection, gradually began to subside. In some cases it becomes absolutely blunt. Deprivation only awakens negative emotions like anger, violence or fear.

As a result, an innocent person has to suffer from various mental problems. A simple-minded boy turns into a grumpy poisonous man.

Thus: -

It is not surprising if the above child grows up and often loses self-control at the slightest words and shows such reactions to others. The seeds of this uncontrollable anger were sown in his childhood.

Let's take a look back at my childhood

The child is lying / sitting alone in bed. She cried. Maybe the mother's attention wanted a little caress or companionship. Mother came and took him in her arms, caressed him a little and left again.

Now think if the mother gets angry when she hears the baby crying? Never pay attention to him? Reprimand loudly for crying? Because he believes that if the child is lied to, it will come to mind, but? The child will learn, expressing feelings or emotions is a crime! Mother is angry at that. From here trauma is born.

Emotional needs:-

Many of us wonder what more needs a newborn baby could have. Food? Diameter?

But it is not. From the age of one day, his emotional needs are also created. He wants to get his quota of attention, love and praise. According to the quota, I said that it is not unlimited. Yet many children remain deprived.

Whether young or old, everyone's emotional needs are the same. A little love, a little attention, a little praise (which will make him feel special) is essential in the overall development of the child.

We, as adults, cater to this need through a pick-up and give-take policy. But children are completely dependent on parents or other primary care givers. So helpless!

And so easily traumatized.

I hear many mothers say:-

I know how to beat up a bad boy. That's why my son is successful today (profession).

They feel proud (successful mom!?) son/daughter doing a great job. Cars and houses mean all the extravagance. But you can feel whether you have become a man after marriage. They fail to build meaningful relationships outside the family. Creating intimate relationships becomes the most difficult task for them.

There are many people who suffer from childhood trauma who do not grow up. Even if the intellect becomes a scholarship, the mind remains of a 7-year-old child. Even if the IQ increases, the emotional IQ does not increase.

How is a child? The policy wants to get what it likes without caring about the rules. But growing up, it is not possible to understand.

People who suffer from trauma in childhood do not understand it even when they grow up. Their tag line: - I get what I want and stop. Bye hook or bye crook.

Conclusion

The void created by not getting the right thing at the right time cannot be filled even with hundred attempts. No matter how much love and praise you shower on those who are traumatized as children when they grow up... nothing makes them happy or satisfied. The emptiness of the heart wakes up like a black hole. Extremely unhappy on the inside and just as happy on the outside. They have to live a sad life with deep wounds in their consciousness. Very very happy people acting with that. They have to fight for the rest of their lives to get rid of the pain of not having childhood. However, happiness, peace or contentment remains elusive to them.