Your emotional intelligence may be higher than you think

Was your emotional intelligence active when you thought you were acting with your logic? Or maybe your logic kicks in when you get emotional? Is it possible to understand them? Is it easier to act on emotions? Is our Emotional Intelligence better than we thought? For example, my logical side seeks answers to these curious questions.

Have you ever let emotions push you to do something you later regret? Or that you let emotions hold you back from what you really want to do? Do you know? It's happened to all of us. However, this does not mean that you are not emotionally intelligent.

Emotional intelligence, the skill that allows emotions to work for you, not against you, involves learning and applying.

Take a look at the statements below and evaluate if they describe your behavior and habits.

1.You think about your own and others' feelings.

Emotional intelligence begins with projection.

“Why do I feel like this?” or “What caused me [or anyone else] to say or do this?” You ask questions like By viewing each emotional response as a learning experience, you learned to read your own and others' moods and how to react accordingly.

2. You learn about yourself from others.

You are not afraid to ask others how they see you, because you realize that there is much to be learned from their point of view. In some cases, perception is reality.

3. You realize the importance of “please” and “thank you”.

Every day you see others who refuse to show appreciation or general courtesy. However, you are not affected by it. You understand the power of a few small words to brighten someone's day, strengthen relationships, and feel better; so you always take the time to express your appreciation.

4. You pause.

Especially when you find yourself getting emotional, you make it a habit to stop and think before you speak or act. (Easy in theory, difficult in practice.) Of course, you're not perfect. But the pause has kept you out of embarrassment more than a few times, made you a better employee, and even helped save your relationships.

5. You ask why.

Instead of labeling people, you focus on the reasons behind their behavior. This improves your ability to show empathy and compassion and see things from the perspective of others. And you've found that it helps you relate to just about anyone.

6. You learn from criticism.

Nobody likes to be told they're wrong. However, criticism is an opportunity to learn, even if it is not given in the best way. And even if it's unfounded, it gives you a window into how others think. When you receive negative feedback, you try to keep your emotions in check and accept the good as well as the bad.

7. You are a closet anthropologist.

From the moment you meet someone, you begin to analyze that person's behavior. You can't get yourself out of it. But all this awareness has helped you remember that your words and actions can have profound effects on others. So you focus not only on what you say, but also on how you say it.

8. You are not afraid to apologize.

You know that "I'm sorry" can be the two most difficult words to say in any language. But you know they can also be the most powerful words. By admitting your mistakes and apologizing when appropriate, you become more humble and authentic. This naturally builds trust with others and strengthens your relationships.

9. You don't hold grudges.

Even if you're not a wimp, you should be aware that refusing to forgive is like leaving a knife in the wound – that way you never give a chance to heal. Instead of getting caught in resentment while others move on, give yourself a chance to move on and forgive.

10. You have a great emotional vocabulary.

By learning to express your feelings in a particular language, you increase your level of understanding. For example, when you are sad, you try to go deeper and understand why: Am I disappointed? am i bored? Am I hurt? Doing so provides a deeper understanding of your feelings and helps you better understand the feelings of others.

11. You praise sincerely and specifically.

By constantly seeking the good in others and saying what you appreciate in them, you motivate and inspire. Therefore, others find it a pleasure to be around you and try to reciprocate in the best way possible.

12. You control your thoughts.

They say, "You can't prevent a bird from landing on your head, but you can prevent it from nesting there." You may not be able to control the initial, emotional response. But you can control your next thoughts. Instead of focusing on self-destructive feelings, you focus on productive thoughts and work on progress.

13. You don't freeze others in time.

You know very well that everyone has a bad day, even a bad year (that's true, even you). Recognizing that people can change, you focus on evaluating behavior rather than people. This keeps your relationships fluid and helps you get the most out of them.

14. You analyze your strengths as well as your weaknesses.

By identifying what you do well, you can put yourself in more likely situations.

However, you know you won't get any better unless you also work on your weaknesses. Thus, you take the time to identify where you can improve and a mindset that seeks continuous improvement.

15. You protect yourself from emotional sabotage.

You know that manipulators are skilled at using the emotions of others to tamper with and influence in an unethical way. And that's exactly why you keep sharpening your own emotional intelligence to protect yourself from this.