Your Dark side...
Were you afraid of the dark when you were little? Most of us were afraid. I think none of us questioned the reason for this fear. We were all taught that darkness is something to be afraid of, fraught with many unknown dangers that can harm us.
Well, do you remember what happened when you turned on the lights? You've seen that those unknowns aren't scary. And they were no longer unknown; It was just things around you.
We have all learned to associate darkness with the terrible and unknown; It is also not a good thing to talk with dark thoughts and feelings. That's why most of us don't. However, although it is much easier not to go deep and to think superficially, we should know that the darkness in our soul is there whether we accept it or not, and it grows and adds strength to its power.
Understanding the dark
As we grow, so do our emotional turmoil and fears, and over time they begin to become like our shadows. There is a hidden part in all of us that influences our decisions without even being aware of it.
To tell the truth, we go to great lengths to hide this side of ourselves, both from ourselves and from other people. This is our dark side. The part of us we are ashamed of and afraid to show. But denial also prevents us from seeing our own power that lies in the obscurity of darkness.
We have decided to deny and hide the darkness within us, for reasons from the past, without going any deeper. And that keeps us from expressing ourselves openly.
Either way, hiding our shadows can be considered the highest form of betrayal. By hiding our dark sides, we say we don't deserve to express ourselves fully, and we betray ourselves. In the end, secrecy, manipulation, and pretending take over a large part of our lives because of our fear of being exposed and denied the aspects of ourselves we want to hide from people.
As I said before, our shadow can manifest itself as weakness or strength. Being fully aware of ourselves gives us the chance to unleash our true strength. On the other hand, ignoring some of our parties always has hurtful results.
The more we discover the dark corners of our selves, the more we see the flaws in our character. These can manifest as addictions, anxiety, failure in work and relationships, or different behavior patterns that can harm us and those around us.
Being aware of our shadows not only sheds light on the problems experienced at an early age, but also allows for healing and change. But as long as we choose to turn a blind eye to what is happening, the problems continue to grow and poison our lives.
We must transcend the shadows to strengthen our spirituality. All spiritual work requires that our shadows be uncovered and appraised with meaning. Only seeking enlightenment, pursuing inner peace, distracts us from feelings such as shame, guilt, greed, competition, lust, and greed. However, in order to reach true light and enlightenment, these feelings must first be overcome.
Even simple spiritual exercises like meditation can become difficult when we ignore our shadow, our dark side. When we close our eyes and are alone with our thoughts, the shadow we suppress appears.
The things we ignore always limit us and make us feel excluded. Deep down, we know that the feelings we ignore exist within us, and hiding them takes us away from the truth and sometimes leads us to self-destructive behaviors. If we do not accept and internalize our shadow, our spiritual and personal growth will be limited. If we avoid looking into the darkness, we are denying our desire to be understood by others.
We begin to over-identify ourselves with the traits we acquire while trying to understand reality. This in turn shapes our character, our attitude towards people and the world.
Our roles in life and our personality do their best to make us feel more valuable. For some of us it may be to be smart, successful and strong, while for others it may be the opposite. No matter how our personality tries to control our lives, in the end, it's nothing more than an effort to win the love and appreciation of others for traits we don't actually have.
As we struggle to keep parts of ourselves together, we create separations. The message here is: “I don't want to see or feel parts of myself that I know are inside of me, and I prefer to criticize others for having these traits that I reject and projecting them out.” Thus we choose separation between what is inside us and the outside world. Loneliness continues in a cage of pain.
Fully accepting who you are
The way to light is through darkness. Whether we like it or not, our dark side continues to exist in spite of all our efforts to hide it. We know it's there and constantly striving to be accepted.
We must face our shadow in an environment where we feel comfortable and safe. Otherwise, it can cause even more terrible loneliness. When we feel safe, we can begin to see and reveal what is hidden beneath our awareness.
We confine the unpolished diamonds of power, creativity and beauty within boundaries. Confronting our shadow is the perfect step towards healing and loving ourselves.
At first we may not be sure of who we are as we embark on this exciting and necessary journey. But it's like meeting a familiar stranger that we've been hiding behind masks for too long. Soon, new possibilities and perspectives emerge.
All of a sudden, we begin to see many of the problems we face in our lives from a strong and authentic perspective. We develop our capacity to be complete and complete in this world. What do you think, are you ready for such enlightenment?
