Don't Skip Special Days in Relationships!
Birthday, Valentine's Day, Women's Day, Mother's Day, Father's Day, wedding anniversary, first day of dating, first kiss, first holding hands, first holiday... Special Days continue like this. In order of importance. It's not that important anyway. There are only classics celebrating birthdays. Others are totally obsessed with it and don't skip any special day. But what if one party in the relationship doesn't reciprocate. You don't care if he doesn't remember. A complete disappointment, Disappointment. In fact, it's nice to care about special days. In the hustle and bustle of his life, he can forget his loved ones even though he sees them. What a contradiction, being able to see and forget at the same time. Just like that. You see that you are together every day, you share the same pillow, but you don't even say that you love you for a long time. You can't remember the last time you were alone and had a special day. Isn't that blindness?
We all have days in our lives that we attach special meaning to. For some of us, the most special day is the birthday of a loved one, while for others, it is the wedding anniversary, the birth of our child or Valentine's Day. These days are made special and remembered with the meanings we attribute.
Special days are very important in our lives. These are days that should be valued and celebrated. Even if your life is great, everything is going well and is perfect, everyone loves you and even if they don't spare attention, we expect more importance and attention from everyone on special days. Imagine if the man you fell in love with forgot your birthday; your world will collapse on you. You feel like the unimportant, unattended lousy side. In fact, it is not, but the meaning you put on special days requires this. That's why we should never forget special days and take notes so that we don't become victims later on. To be remembered is the most beautiful thing and it makes people happy, let's not forget that.
What makes those days special is not the point at which the world is around the Sun or the year in which that day is, but the personal, religious or national significance of the event that happened on that day for some reason. We may forget a loved one's birth year and age, but forgetting their birthday can hurt them. Forgetting the wedding anniversary can cause resentment between the spouses and can cost the party who forgets the compensation.
Years are important for celebration only when they are multiples of five and ten, but days matter every year. Schoolmates continue to meet on the same day, even years later.
Saying goodbye to the old year, celebrating the new year -perhaps because it is confused with Christmas- is seen as a Christian tradition, but in fact it is a tradition belonging to all societies. New Year celebrations have been in the traditions of all societies since the earliest known periods of history. Celebrating the New Year belongs to cultures, not religions. In all societies, people start from the new year; they expect health, happiness, goodness, abundance, peace and tranquility. Celebrations of the new year also enable people to make an accounting of the past year and make new resolutions in the new year.
Celebrating the end of summer and harvesting, the Germans' Oktoberfest is also celebrated by Protestants as "St. Celebrations under the name “Martins Day”, the Moon Festival in China, and the “Thanksgiving Day” celebrated in America and Canada all have the same meanings. At the root of all of them is to be grateful for the harvest obtained after long labors and to be grateful for spending the long winter months without starvation.
Celebrations add color, joy and enthusiasm to our ordinary lives. Celebrations have the power to turn an ordinary meal into a “banquet,” a meeting into a “festival,” and a stranger into a “friend.” We are filled with fresh energy through ceremonies and celebrations. Celebrations bring people closer together, soften our spirits. Celebrations in all cultures conduce to peace and add meaning to our lives.Anthropologist Jan Assman says that our cultural memory is shaped by holidays and celebrations. Holidays and celebrations create a feeling of happiness, love and trust, regardless of the reason. The arrangement of the venues where the celebrations are held, the cooking of the meals ensure that the feelings of cooperation, solidarity and sharing are elevated and settled in the society.
Durkheim says that ceremonies and celebrations have an invigorating function in society. Ceremonies and celebrations that coincide with moments of crisis and difficult times refresh morale.
Celebrating is a legacy we have inherited from the first man. I believe that we should know the value of all celebrations, from people's own special days to religious and national celebrations, and that we should give them all their due; If our health allows, I think we should put aside the troubles of our daily lives for a short time and join these celebrations.
To embrace the moments of celebration, whether in our private lives or in our corporate and social life; Sharing the enthusiasm of the celebration and the spirit of unity and solidarity builds bridges between our hearts. No matter what sect or political view we belong to, there are invaluable ties that bind the people living in these lands. We must appreciate these strong ties. I believe that these ties that “bind us together” are much stronger than the elements that “divide us”. Welcoming the new year is a day embraced by all religions and cultures, which means "turning a clean slate". As we start a new year, we can celebrate the feelings of sharing, solidarity and goodness. Whatever meaning we attach to this special day, it takes on that meaning for us. This day really means something special to all of us if we see it as an opportunity to build a shared spirit.
