Polyamarous Journey.

My previous artcile showed that i was scared of love, scared to express my emotions and be vulnerable. I mean we have all experienced hurt and sometimes letting go of that hurt is hard. So today i'll be sharing my friends Polyamarous relationship journey. hmm let's call her Sky since she brought a certain sense of calmness whenever i would hang out with her.

You see Sky started dating this guy, and as an over protective bestfriend i was worried that what if the guy wasn't genuine. Soon enough i came to learn that he was actually a pretty decent guy, however he was polyamrous. For those who do not know what polyamory is, well its basically the practice of engaging in multiple romantic (and typically sexual) relationships, with the consent of all the people involved. At first i was in Awe, you know all ladies love having their man all to themselves, i mean i'll be damned if i see another woman flirting with my man, ooh hell i might even throw a glass at her(just kidding violence is not the solution.)

But she seemed really happy and content with this new Lover, so i decided to do a little research to better understand what polyamory is. Remember ladies and gents knowledge is power and ignorance is.....

Below are somepoints i came to learn about polyamory both from my friend's experince and from a little research.

1.Polyamory is Complex.

Polyamorous relationships are complex and each one is different. People in polyamorous relationships design their own relationships by setting their desired boundaries and establishing rules that are different from those in monogamous relationships.

One of the most important agreements that polyamorous people have is an agreement about safer sex. This usually refers to a rule about who they will have unprotected sex .This is essential to prevent the spread of STDs.

2.Polyamorous Relationship Have True Intimacy

Polyamorous people find that being in intimate relationships with multiple people creates more intimacy due to the vulnerability and communication required. 

3.Polyamory requires alot of commitment.

Commitment in polyamory often looks different than it does in monogamous relationships. Couples may not create traditional relationship milestones together, like cohabitation, engagement. However, they still have committed relationships and are there for each other. Some people believe that polyamory requires a lot of commitment because of how much dedication to open and honest communication it requires. 

4.Polyamory requires Honesty.

As do all relationships, however the level of honesty in polyamory relationships is amplified. This is because their are alot of people involved and the stakes are high. So having an open communication with your gilr's about a ceratin matter or even actaully asking them for permission before going out with a new girl is important. This shows that you actually respect them enough and they will feel included rather than left out.

Polyamory isn't actually ment for everyone and that is okay. Sky seems to actually be in a pretty good place and i am so happy for her. Am also happy that the Guy she is with is Honest and Gives all of them the same love and attention. I know this story is not like my previous one, but hey change is inevitable.

I'll be back to share more on love and polymory once i understand it more. Before i leave lemme leave you with a quote from one of my favorite love song "If i loose my self tonight, it'll be by your side. :)