There is a wide agreement among psychologists that love is a fundamental and basic need of all people. This need is generally stronger in women than men, and they have a tremendous capacity for love, both giving and receiving. The noble quality of mother love is universally acknowledged to the extent that occasional incidents in which mothers do not love their children are difficult to believe. Tim and Beverly LaHaye have suggested five kinds of love required by a woman.
Companionship Love.
Although numerous men have become hermits and recluses, few women are known to withdraw to a life of solitude. A woman looks upon marriage as perpetual companionship, and the neglect of companionship caused by a man's job which takes him from home for long periods of time may result in marital problems. Since the man is surrounded by people on his job, he often is unaware of the importance of his companionship with his wife. If the wife stays home all day in caring for household matters and children, she desires the husband's attention and companionship when he arrives home. So often the husband has become frustrated on his job or disturbed by relations with coworkers. When he arrives home, he does not provide companionship but often makes his wife and children the objects of his frustration. The wife, too, is responsible for helping to build companionship love. She must be willing to share in the activities which interest her husband, while the husband gives attention to areas of interest to his wife.
Compassionate Love.
A woman has a natural compassion for her child and husband in times of sickness and injury. She is anxious to do everything possible to relieve suffering or discomfort of her family members. She is likely to wait upon her husband in times of his illness much more efficiently and thoroughly than he responds to her needs during times of sickness. Men should remember that women's displays of compassion mean that they have need for compassionate love in return.
Romantic Love.
Since women are more sentimental than men, they have as extraordinary need for romance. They dream of romantic occasions and tender moments. Flowers, music, soft lights, and refined entertainment are desired. When a man comes to a special dinner, he is concerned about the quality of food, but the woman is concerned also about exquisite decorations and beautiful surroundings. Unexpected gifts and an occasional night out without the children are especially appreciated by the wife even though she may be very practical in keeping expenses to a minimum in trying to manage the household. Man's need for romance may be practically nonexistent, but his wife never loses that need. Although women's liberation movements have attempted to erase the distinctions of emotional needs between man and woman, women continue to respond to expressions of thoughtfulness, such as opening car doors, being permitted to enter a door first, and being seated at the table women like to be treated like ladies.
Affectionate Love.
A woman desires embraces and kisses of appreciation. A tender and the closeness of one whom she loves is as enjoyable as the more intimate relationship. She appreciate an approving look and words of commendation.
Passionate Love.
Because of man's stronger sexual drive, passionate love is more natural and constant for him than for his wife. A woman's passions are more periodic than man's and are affected more by fatigue and emotional distress. The woman who experiences the other four areas of love and has high self-esteem as a wife will enjoy passionate love. A warm love relationship with her husband both fulfills her needs and those of her husband. Gratification comes to her by the feeling that she is meeting her husband's needs.
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