@Hanzell 9 May 2022

Dating apps and me 😅 I was honestly planning on continuing my science writings today since I just need to edit and proofread most of them. (I have like 5 pending articles to edit and proofread XD). But I don’t know, I just felt like writing this since I needed someone to tell and I got tired of hearing my friends say “You’re going to spain anyways, just continue your playgirl antics there” Then I constantly need to remind them that I’m not a player or a playgirl, it’s called bachelorette dating (Same thing as Bachelor dating where the guy meets multiple women at once but in my case, I meet a lot of men). But it's still not considered being a playgirl, it's just making yourself available in the dating market. It shouldn’t be an issue, actually XD since times have changed and through this process, I clearly get to see what I want, like, dislike in a man and in a potential long term partner. Although, what my friends say is true “That I’m leaving the country by 2024 anyways", but still, it couldn’t hurt to try. I mean, who knows where you might find the person you need in life. And meeting people isn't all about the romance, some of the guys I meet on these apps become friends I can ask guy questions. Despite staying friends with some of the people I've talked to, I’m actually known as the biggest flirt in my friend circle but I’m not the kind of friend that would ditch them for a guy, I’m still a “Bros before hoes” kind of girl still. I'm just trying to turn the tables on guys 🤣 cuz if they can have multiple partners and dates at a time, why can't I? What's bad is when you grow attached to them 🤣 that's the dangerous part because you should be aware that when you start the dating app gaming, you'll mostly meet temporary people and getting attached is definitely gonna ruin your mental health Anyways, I’m kind of taking a break from my flirting phase and I’m just focusing on the promotion training and on my art again since I feel like flirting guys makes me forget my art skills. And none of these guys inspire me to actually draw something too. They actually just drain my energy by the end of the day and keep me up at night. It is definitely not a worthy path. So yeah, I’m taking my friends’ advice about just waiting for Spain plus I still have… 5? guys that I’m talking to now that are pretty decent (in my opinion), and I see them if they’re free, or when I’m free, or when they ask me out for a quick meal during the work days (or a quickie when I have a lot of free time on my hands XD). Yes, I am this liberated and I am this open to the idea of dating apps and sex. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it as long as you know preventive measures and your boundaries. The dating apps I’ve used though… Well, I’ve tried a lot XD and I’ve been using them since I was in college. I actually met my last ex on one of them. But the ones that I come back to is bumble. If you hear that app name, I can tell you that the people there are pretty okay, but since it’s election, it kind of went toxic this past week so I had to remove myself from it again, though I might come back to it again after a few months, when my mental capacity has recovered from all these “let me educate you on why you should vote for **** or ****” or “who are you voting for?” questions that just kind of annoy me, because I am in the app to meet people that would want to talk about things other than politics or news because if I wanted to talk about those things, I should just talk to my family instead of wasting my time. But that’s just me rambling. Bumble people are decent, they know how to behave themselves and I appreciate that, but there’s so many dead kids there (pardon the term but that’s what I call people that feel like they’re just forcing themselves to interact with you. But it’s still infinitely better compared to my experience on tinder. Though what sucks about bumble now is that you need a subscription to see who likes you and to get unlimited likes. Back in college, that was just for free. The subscription is still way cheaper than tinder though My experience on tinder… I used that back in college, and back then, it was so fun to use. Like, you didn’t need to upload your actual picture, you didn’t need to pay for anything, you could simply use it to mess with people. I have no idea when it got bought by this communications company, but now, tinder kind of became like… the elite dating app, next to dating.com (Yes, i tried that thing too at some point and it was full of bots), so if you’re going for tinder, make sure you’re rich, you have a ride, you have a fat stack of cash in your wallet, you are an influencer or a model, or you are part of the elite group to actually be able to afford a premium subscription, otherwise, you’re just wasting your time and effort there. Other apps I’ve tried… was badoo, litmatch, tantan, okcupid, astrokiss, boo (that one was cute, met a lot of nerds there that could understand my chemistry talk. Sadly, all of them lived so far away so dating was not that possible for me. And I grew tired of a long distance relationship because I’ve been craving the physical aspects of dating too) and I know there were other apps that I tried, but I don’t know if they were wiped off playstore or if the people in the app just didn’t make an impact on me aside from the usual horny people. Anyways, that’s me and my dating app experience, maybe on another article, I’ll sum up the kind of guys you’d meet in those apps for if you want to try XD