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Consequences of parental negligence in child marriage..

I am telling real story of my friend.. 

Many parents trust their children but the reality is that their children are living a married life without marriage. The blame for all this lies with the parents who, despite having a proper relationship, do not get married and push their children into the mire of sin. They will spend Rs 15 lakh in the name of education but they do not have money to get married to save it from immorality. Better a poor horse than no horse at all. The girl who is not allowed to have a smartphone at home and listen is living a married life. See the trust of parents and children.

A few years ago, he was in the northern areas with his family. In the morning, when I got ready and left the hotel room to put my luggage in the car, two of my students (male and female) were leaving the front room. I was shocked to see them in this condition and they were also shocked. Both of them lowered their eyes in shame and embarrassment and forgot to greet each other. It is useless to say anything on such an occasion so I left and he left. When I returned from the tour a few days later and went to the office, they both came to me on their own and remained silent.

After a while, I broke the silence and said, "You are both from good families, you are worthy, you are sensible, why don't you get married instead of wandering around like that?" They said that they have come to you so that they can tell you the real situation. They said that we have both talked in our own house but the people of the house are not ready to listen to us for marriage. You talk, maybe you agree.

A few days later, I took a colleague with me and went to their house in turn. The response from both parents was almost identical. The mother of both of them said that how can I marry such a small child? And their fathers said that their community is different from ours. We do not marry outside our caste. The girl's other objection was that the boy was not yet earning. And also that now two older sisters are sitting, first they will get married then they will think about it. The boy's parents said he had an older sister who was still a virgin. How to do it before that and what to do after marriage if he is still taking money from us for his education.

Here is what my friend asked his parents about all this..

1) First of all, the caste community is for identification only, otherwise one can marry anyone among the Muslims and these caste communities do not matter. All Muslims are equal.

2) After puberty, boys and girls do not stay young, but fulfilling sexual desire is one of their basic needs, but this desire is more intense in youth.

3) It is not necessary to have children's relationships in order, but if one's relationship has come first, one should get married first, whether it is a girl or a boy.

4) You are from well-to-do families and have a wealth of wealth. Where you are currently paying for one, it is not difficult for you to do two. If this is difficult, then just as you are now bearing the expenses of your son or daughter, continue to bear the expenses of your own son or daughter until they become earners.

5) If this is difficult, then set aside the expenses that you have planned to spend on their marriage and keep them in an account and from this you will continue to pay them monthly expenses and make their marriage very simple. I'm sure they will both make money long before they run out of money.

6) If all this is impossible, then at least marry them so that they will avoid sin. You will be discharged when you start the job.

There were many meetings between the two sides. The two families also had discussions and meetings, but the needle remained stuck on both sides. So much time has passed but neither side has agreed with the parents.

Recently I went to Serena Hotel Faisalabad to meet a foreign friend who was staying there. When he left his room, the two students were walking out of the next room holding hands. This time there was no shame or embarrassment on his face. He greeted me calmly, asked about the situation, and then left. I think that it is their parents who have brought them to the point that their remorse for sin is gone. In fact, they do not consider it a sin. I don't know what such parents will answer in the hereafter.

Our parents should marry their children as soon as possible because it will save them from sin and our religion Islam also says that when a child becomes an adult, he should get married. But in our society the opposite is true because in our society people say that she will not get married unless she has a job. But our parents have an important role to play in this. If they want, they can marry their children if they are adults. Our parents should think about this because people are committing so many sins today. Most young people are committing adultery too much and all the blame will go to their parents because they know that our children are young and adults so they should get married if they don't marry them then they are equal partners in this sin.

I am also posted this post on uptrennd

Here is my Uptrennd post link..

https://www.uptrennd.com/post-detail/a-big-mistakes-of-parents-in-their-childrens-lifes~NzY0NDI2