After the vow what next?

Kingsley alone in his office, was in a pensive mood. He was reflecting on his life. How he got himself entangled in the mess he was in now, he could not fathom. All he wanted was a way out, and that was nowhere he sight. To think that his marriage was barely fifteen months old and he was this bored with the relationship was unimagineable! Compounding his problems was the affair he had just started with the lady in office next to his. Yet, he was supposed to be a Christian! He had broken his Marital vow. No peace for him again. Biblical injunctions about the sanctity of marriage vows, which he knew and had preached kept ringing in his ears.

He was not at peace with himself and no peace at home either. Ooh he sighed. His mother-in-law was not even helping matters. What with her imposing presence in the house, always ordering her daughter about if she was still under her care! Anyway, was it her fault? He thought. Mary was always running back home for everything after their wedding. How then would her mother not be controlling her? Kingsley could scarcely be home a full day alone with his wife. Now that her mother had even packed in, in the guise of caring for their child, things has become worse!

He could remember vividly how the problem started. Mary had insisted on a very flamboyant wedding. He had finished all his savings on her spending spree. He even had to go borrowing to satisfy her demands. When he had to pay back debts after wedding. Mary had to depend on her mother for sustenaince. Before he could realise what was happening, his mother-in-law had taken over his hone. He felt so sorry for himself. Why didn't he refuse to spend so much on the wedding? That would have prevented all this mess, he thought. He had become so alienated from his wife, who felt so comfortable with her mum around that he had fallen into trap of the lady in the next office. Now the deed was done and his conscience will not let him rest.

Kingsley was surely at his wits end, but his wife was so engrossed, first with the child and then her mum, that she did not even know, her husband was aching out of neglect. He was staying late in the office to kill time, so to say, this has lead to his undue closeness with the lady who started to keep his company, before he could control his feelings and emotions, he has been lured and trapped because he then was very vulnerable. How how would he disengage from this satanic trap? He thought even now, if he should stop this new affair, was he sure of the waiting arms of his wife? How could he get through to her? For her to realise she had missed it? All this questions, to which he had no answers kept coming to his mind, he felt so totally lost.

Definitely is not the only man going through this dilemma. Yet giving the right condition and atmosphere, half of Marital problem will no be. Each partners goes into marriage with some expectations. For instance an average wife wants to be loved and doted upon, she wants security. Now wonder the only wise God commanded husbands to love their wives. Also, a typical husband want a companion, he wants happiness to enable him master his world and make a mark on earth. Again, God in his wisdom created a woman (a wife for Adam) to solve the problem of loneliness, so God created a wife an help meet (a companion suitable ) for him to enable him fulfill Gods plan for his life.

Conclusion

A man must stand and live by principle because I see no reason why a man should go and borrow money to do wedding just because he wants to satisfy his partner, because wedding will only last for a day but marriage last forever. Because when things begin to turn upside down, both couples would be tired of the relationship. Any lady that wants a flamboyant wedding would have prepared very well before venturing into it just like my friend @Princessbusayois doing right now laying a good foundation for her unborn children and trying to make sure they live a fulfilled life.