Relationships can be a bit tricky at times, especially when you’re dealing with a person that clings on to you; clingy people can be hard to deal with. This doesn’t have to be a bad situation, but for a lot of people, it brings about issues. Just to think about it: how do you know you’re way too clingy? Your partner may not be directly letting you know that you’re just too attached, so you’re seeking signs to figure it out yourself. Although there’s a battle in figuring this out alone, we help you along the way to solve the mystery of your possible clinginess.
1. When they go out without you, you get upset
In a relationship, time with each other can be just as important as time without each other; you and your partner need time away from one another. There are times when your partner wants to hang out with with their own social group, as should you. However, you feel angry and worried when they leave you out of the mix. So once this happens, if you find yourself constantly checking in on your partner and questioning how everything is going, you’re reaching the grounds of being clingy. Your partner gives you time away to be able to hang out with your friends, so they’re likely expecting the same in return.
2. You’re obsessed over getting a text back
Getting a text back from your partner excites you and adds a brightness to your day that only they can bring. You look forward to receiving texts messages from them, but it’s becoming obsessive—you can reach a point where you forget about other friendships and relationships you have and that can be detrimental your overall life. It’s best to take some time to reflect on the obsession, in order to move forward with a healthier way of communicating with your partner.
3. When you don’t hear from them in a while, anxiety strikes
Your partner hasn’t texted or called you in some time and now you’re thinking the worst-case scenario has occurred. The “what if” factors are driving you into a tense-bound river of worry and your logical thinking has deserted itself away from your mind.
Logically, the person is likely fine but doesn’t want to talk to you at the moment. Your partner has things to do, which means they can’t respond to you right away every time. If they did want to respond back as soon as possible to you, they definitely would reach out to you. Just be patient and draw away from the “what if” factors.
4. You investigate with a lot of questioning
There’s a gap between wanting to know what your partner is up to and needing to know. Already picking up the hints that you’re clingy from wanting to always be included in your partner’s social circle is trouble enough, but now you need answers for everything…every little thing that occurred—you feel the need to know. It’s entitlement that you feel and it can hinder your relationship soon, the near future or further down the line.
5. You’re jealous of their attractive friends and/or coworkers
The chances that your partner works with someone very attractive is high. Also, the chances that one of their friends is attractive too, that can be high too in some cases. However, once you find yourself becoming jealous and clingy, it’s best that you sit down with your partner and talk about it. Holding resentment towards your partner’s coworkers and/or friends will have a negative effect on your relationship.
Great article