A friend once told me that nobody has graduated in our family and this became like a trademark any person that eventually entered school, will end up dropping out; no good thing can be traced to her family or linage
She sat down and thought of this for a long time. She made up her mind to start school.
There is nothing impossible with a made up mind.
Shakespeare once wrote "the fault dear Brutus, is not in our Stars, but in ourselves, that we are underlings"
The truth be told, nothing is wrong with you or where you are from, certainly we are from Africa where, most individual's get satisfaction in another person's misfortune.
That being as it may, if you don't succeed in life don't blame anybody, don't blame your parents, don't blame your community, don't blame society, blame yourself.
Consequently, she decided to "be the first" she considered five factors which are; "H"factor and 4 "W's
H- How: you need to understand how the challenage came about? how come nobody is doing well in your family. How come nobody has ever succeeded, how come nobody is ever venturing into business or politics.
How come nobody is getting married in my family, how come no body has graduated in yourfamily. This will lead to asking questions like;
When : one of the four 'w's is "when". You need to understand when it all started. When did your family start experiencing the challenge, when it happened what did they do.
You need to understand the when, because most people, the challenge they are facing presently, they can hardly understand when it all started. Ask questions, stop trial by error.
Where: the second factor from the four "W" is where, you need to understand or ask questions such as where did this come from?
If you don't ask the where question? you may end up going in circles, you need to understand where the challenge is coming from. Where have the challenge happened before! were did they get solution.
What: The third factor is 'What'. What is this? what is happening? what is happening that nobody is progressing in my family; that nobody is graduating in my family.
You need to understand the what or you need to ask questions like, what is happening? if you understand the 'what' then it becomes easier to really look into the root cause of the problem
Who: the fourth factor of the 'w's is "Who". Who and who have experienced this challenge in your family ,who and who have experienced , what you are experiencing now.
You need to understand, the who factor, because , it gives the chronology of where it all started from.
When questions like; when , where, what and who have experienced that challenge in your family or linage; how they went about solving the problem it gives you an insight, how to solve the problem.
Finally, if nobody have done it, in your lineage or in your family, if nobody have gone to school, if nobody have started that business, if nobody have started a church, if nobody have gone abroad, if nobody has gotten a scholarship, if nobody has done something extraordinary, you can be the first.
If you aim to hit the sun, if you miss, you will not miss the moon. so put in your best! do all you can and I know you can surely make it. You can be the first to achieve that in your family and linage.
My friend considered these five factors; how, when, where, what, and who. Entered school, she had several challenges, she's now a graduate. You can also, Be the First.
Have a beautiful day!
