Have you noticed the kids in the world today are supercomputers and they operate on the latest programming language?
Judging by the way kids learn and assimilate things, you do be wondering if people were born differently ten decades ago. I have an eleven-year-old brother who can repair a home electrical appliance if it is still repairable, he will lock himself up in his room until he fixes that thing.
Whenever I ask where he learns it from, he would just tell me that he is practicing and he found his way around things. Whenever I battling with settings on my device, he would give ideas on how to do it and it works.
Kids in the world today are smart and you see them doing things you don't expect from them. The things they see and hear have lots of impact on them immediately or later in life.
This their super ability to learn which is very good for them to do exploit in their studies can also be a weapon of destruction for them.
It is really bad when parents don't pay attention to these things and when the kids start coming up with this strange attitude, the parents don't hesitate to punish the kids forgetting that they are the ones who influenced the child/children.
I know of a little girl who calls her dad "baby", I love seeing her doing that and she always looks cute. She started that as a result of the sweet names her parents call themselves.
She grew to a point and knew the difference but it was difficult for her to change because she was addicted. It has turned into a fun argument in the house where the father would say "I am your father and she will reply "yes I know but I gave birth to you". The mother will always tell her daughter" he is my baby, not your baby"
It is something they laugh about always, you would see and feel the love growing in the family.
What do you think the girl would grow up to be in her relationship if she is with the right man because marrying the wrong man could end up making an angel the devil?
She has learned from her parents what love means and I believe she will apply the same knowledge as she grows.
There are lots of things parents do in the presence of the children which are very wrong but they fail to understand what those things could do to the children. I have seen people say that, what if the children are influenced by what they see outside the house. They can indeed be influenced negatively outside but what they see at home can be a correctional tool for them as they grow.
Imagine them seeing wrong things at home and they get outside to see the same thing, it would get disastrous because such a child can grow up to be a beast that can't be controlled.
I will briefly talk about some things parents must not do in the presence of their kids.
Parents using foul or abusive words on each other.
This is very common in many families today because it is impossible not to disagree with couples, it is very hard not to use foul words during those moments. Based on my experience, I have even seen some parents use it as a joke on each other which very wrong.
There nothing wrong with spouses getting naughty by teasing each other but not in the presence of kids. Using foul words in the presence of your children would make them feel that is the best way to reply to someone when having a disagreement.
They end up using it at school, they say it to friends in the neighborhood and it becomes a permanent attitude in their life.
Constant Argument
This is another thing that shouldn't be done in the presence of the kids. This is one of the most emulated habits by kids and it is very common among children today.
It is impossible for parents not to have things to talk about in a relationship but it is very possible to make your points known in a discussion peacefully.
You can always talk as peacefully and quietly as possible. The kids will learn that and it will always help them in solving problems without conflict.
Alcohol Consumption /Smoking /Drug Abuse.
These are habits children see and they decide to practice them when they are alone. They might not start like you are currently doing but it starts from them wrapping papers, they light it and they assume they are smoking.
They end up not seeing it as a bad thing and addiction sets in because their parents are doing it too. These habits become difficult to stop the kids from doing and as they grow into teenage, youth, adulthood, the addiction gets stronger.
I have seen parents who share hard drinks with their teenagers all in the name of celebration. It means you have laid the child the foundation and you endorsed it, sending them errands to purchase these things is even dangerous because that is where most of them build their curiosity.
Parents physically abusing each other
The issues of couples abusing each other have become rampant and the act has claimed lots of lives, before now it is usually the male abusing the female but now, both gender abuse one another physically.
This abuse can happen in different forms, none of it is good for kids to witness. It is difficult to prevent kids from doing what they see their parents doing because they believe it is right. Seeing frequent abuse at home makes them grow into bullies at school and end up doing the same in their marriage.
Let us be very careful and we must be mindful of the things we do in the presence of these kids.
Very true. Parents have great responsibilities of showing good examples to their children