Some vital advice came to my mind about what I would inform the person whom I would love dearly in the future if I ever met anyone who I could love. This advice is to her (future spouse), or them (future children). But it is for me also. If ever I need to recall how to love, or how to handle loss, or when to let go. I will read this and remember. Illustrating advice on love, loss, and letting go can get emotional. I need to write this because Time may come when I feel I am beginning to let go of important love. I might need to look inward to feel hard about it again. I will be able to read this letter of advice to my loved one, or even myself. Maybe it could be a few inspirational words to someone else.
The advice that I will give on love is not about what is to be achieved, but about what can be offered. If I only have a small unbroken piece of my heart left that is worthy of love, then that is what I would give to someone to be felt. If anyone needed to be loved absolutely, without judgment and would accept the love that l was able to give, I will show that person that much love. Even if my heart is shredded to pieces and barely beating, I will give the last ounce of love that l have to make that person feel important and cared for. This is what love should be about. It should never be seized but given willingly. We should not simply tell people about the love that is inside but show it to them. We should not only explain how it feels to care because other people care. We should not ever allow people to think that they are not good enough to attain the love that they deserve. If anyone believes that, then we are not doing the job that we are meant to do. Love transforms the worlds, if not 'the world,’ it will change ‘their world.‘ By actions, we aspire to make them believe because words might only deceive them. We should show fondness, show affection, show tenderness, but not let anyone think that the only heart that is inside this rage of a body is made of rock and incompetent of giving love. How can anyone understand love if it has not been shown to them if they are deal with the words if they have never felt what it means to have love? Love is free. It should be given freely to everyone. Even if love is all I have let me give it out because it is made in a surplus amount that will never run out. There is an endless supply, so we should give it all away, if possible. But we must learn how to handle loss when love ends because there will come a time when the love that is entrusted cannot be returned anymore.
Loss is an experience that is hard to get over. 1 have lost quite a few in my lifetime, But the loss does not always have to do with demise; it could also be a loss because of a broken friendship. Bad life missteps get in the way and pull two, or more, people apart. or even a hard choice pushes on a relationship until there is nowhere left to go but apart. Even though the loss Is not experienced by everyone in the same way, we should learn to handle it in our own different way because we are each unique to the world with our own experiences and grievances. My loss advice. to people who believed that they could have held on a little longer is that the situation was never in our hands to control. When it is time to say goodbye, we have to believe it is God's plan for them to leave. This goes for all situations; death, growing apart, or being left all alone. Without any attention or wanting. Loss is overwhelming only because we do not understand how to deal with it. Some say that time will heal it, and sometimes they are right, but in so many cases, time does not heal the wounds that were left when the people we love leave us. The wounds that are left inside of us materialize because people are trying to break free from inside of our hearts. We have kept them safe in there because that is where we keep the people that we love. When they try to leave, we hold on tighter because we are scared to let go. They pull and rip at anything they can to get out when they have to leave and that is why we hurt, why we develop wounds and scars inside of our hearts. We put up barriers around our hearts after encountering loss so that no one else can enter into that heavenly place and devastate us again. We must let them in. no matter how much it might hurt because it is dark, lonesome, and scary in a world where there is no love. This loss that we have felt can be rehabilitated with love. We have to love freely because love from another can heal the pain of the loss that has scarred a delicate heart and changed the person inside. When we get hurt. It is normal to want to build walls to protect ourselves from future damage, and that is exactly what we do. When just letting go of the relationships and the struggles that hurt us is all we need to do to help ourselves feel less shattered and used up.
Sometimes there are decisions that we need to make, concerning ourselves, when it comes to how much pain we are willing to take for particular people in our lives. Someone might make us feel like we are valuable someday. But bad days and circumstances happen and, we get hurt. We should forgive that person anyway. If anyone repeatedly makes us feel like we are not important, like we do not matter, like we are only an event to pass time, then we need to let go. I know it hurts to cut all connections and break away from what kills us slowly. We do not realize it, but sometimes the pain of letting go is substantially better than the pain of constantly being forgotten or being used. We have to let go of it. It will hurt less. I guarantee. We should not attach to something or someone who will change the souls inside of us; the people that we are meant to be. When there is a choice to either hold onto a pain to be happy or to let it all go and move on to something better to be happier, I am hoping we all could have the strength to choose the latter. We have to understand that this is an important key to becoming happier. Nobody needs to feel insufficient. Nobody deserves to feel undesirable while still holding onto something that may or may not last. It is okay to let go.
Lastly, my advice to me, others, or for anyone in need of it, is to love fist and above everything. When loving people no longer applies, because they no longer need it. We have to deal with the loss in a way that is beneficial to our own life. We have let go of what hurts but always continue to love. It is alright to love someone from afar; it is still pure love. Most importantly, each life matters and makes a difference somewhere in somebody,s world. But, let us never forget to love ourselves and let go of the hurt. We were made to sparkle a light, that light is love. Let us never forget to turn on our lights.
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