It is a rather simple process to become a father. We wouldn't be here in the first place if it wasn't. To get a lady pregnant and become a parent, you don't need much more than sex and luck.
Being a father, on the other hand, necessitates a different set of skills.
Being a father entails much more than simply raising a child. It all comes down to who you are as a person. It's about how you see yourself, others, and the world, and how you treat your children as a result of those perspectives.
Being a dad entails being there for your family in more ways than one, and not just with your cash when something has to be paid for. It's about being able to console your child when he or she is upset. It all comes down to the ability to be soft, kind, compassionate, and understanding. It's about realizing that raising your voice and throwing your weight around will get you nowhere.
Being a father entails spending quality time with your children. It entails not being scared to embrace your childish nature in order to have a good time with them.
Being a father entails meeting both the emotional and physical needs of your family. It's about standing by your children through good times and bad, rather than abandoning them when things get tough. A father is someone who goes above and beyond to ensure that his children are healthy, happy, and safe, rather than someone who does the bare minimum and then throws up his hands in failure.
A father is someone who treats others with respect and patience, no matter who they are, what they look like, or what they choose to do with their lives.
A father is a man who can hold his hands up and admit when he has made a mistake. Someone who can accept their own imperfections while also understanding that they cannot pass harsh judgment on others for the same reason. A father is someone who understands their own limitations and has an open mind about everything.
A father recognizes his or her duty as a role model for his or her children. It's someone who understands that their actions have a direct impact on how their children think, feel, and act.
A true father recognizes the importance of making sacrifices for his family and does so without hesitation. Someone who prioritizes their children over all else; someone who recognizes that they are accountable for their children's future well-being and is concerned about it.
Being a father entails understanding how to have a good time. It is understanding when to break the rules, when to let your hair down and enjoy the moment. It entails getting to know your kids as the small individuals that they are. It entails learning about their likes and dislikes, hopes and dreams, hobbies, friends, and foes.
But most importantly, being a father entails learning as much from your children as they do from you, and growing as a person on a daily basis.
“To be the father of growing daughters is to understand something of what Yeats evokes with his imperishable phrase ‘terrible beauty.’ Nothing can make one so happily exhilarated or so frightened: it’s a solid lesson in the limitations of self to realize that your heart is running around inside someone else’s body. It also makes me quite astonishingly calm at the thought of death: I know whom I would die to protect.” - Christopher Hitchens
“Sherman made the terrible discovery that men make about their fathers sooner or later… that the man before him was not an aging father but a boy, a boy much like himself, a boy who grew up and had a child of his own and, as best he could, out of a sense of duty and, perhaps love, adopted a role called Being a Father so that his child would have something mythical and infinitely important: a Protector, who would keep a lid on all the chaotic and catastrophic possibilities of life.” - Tom Wolfe
Being a father goes beyond having sex and producing children, going to the office to end up putting money down for the family. To be a father, takes huge Responsibility to be there for your wife and children. You need to show love, care, attention and understanding in the home.