Shame

3 33
Avatar for Finley
Written by
3 years ago

Shame

Shameful people frequently strive to hide the item they're embarrassed about. Chronic shame might lead to the belief that you are essentially imperfect. Shame might be difficult to recognize in oneself.

While shame is a bad emotion, its origins are important to our species' existence. We may not feel the need to follow cultural standards, obey laws, or behave in a way that permits us to exist as social beings if we are not ashamed.

When Does Shame Start to Hurt You?

When shame gets internalized, it can lead to an unduly critical assessment of oneself as a whole person. This critic may tell you that you are a bad person, worthless, or unimportant.

The truth is that how humiliated you are often has little to do with your worth or what you have done wrong.

Embarrassment, humiliation, and guilt are among additional popular notions that coincide with shame. However, there are subtle differences in meaning between these phrases that are necessary to comprehend in order to better grasp shame.

Signs You're Hiding Your Shame

Are you concerned that you may be suffering shame? According to psychiatrist Peter Breggin's book Guilt, Shame, and Anxiety, there are a number of self-defeating shame reactions.

  • Sensitive feelings

  • Unappreciated feelings

  • Blemishes uncontrollably

  • Feelings of rejection Feelings of being used

  • Feeling as if you don't have much of an influence

  • Worrying about what others think of you

  • Concerned that you are not being treated with respect and that others are taking advantage of you

  • a desire to have the final say

  • You're terrified of being ashamed if you share your views or feelings.

  • Fear of appearing improper or foolish

  • Being more concerned with failure than with doing something unethical

  • Being a perfectionist is a difficult task.

  • Feeling strange or left out, or as though you are an outsider

  • Suspicion is a sense that you can't trust others

  • a dislike of being the center of attention

  • Being a wallflower or a shrinking violet are two different things.

  • wishing to isolate or withdraw from others

  • Feeling as if you can't be yourself?

  • Attempting to blend in or go unnoticed

  • You've lost your identity.

  • Feeling insufficient

  • Regretful feelings

  • Dishonorable feelings

Finally, the following behaviors are examples of what people do when they are ashamed:

  • Instead of seeing people in the eyes, you glance down.

  • Slumping your shoulders instead of standing up straight, keeping your head down down

  • Feeling stuck or unable to go around

  • Not being able to act on the spur of the moment

  • When you try to speak, you stammer.

  • I'm speaking in a hushed tone.

  • Keeping oneself hidden from others

  • If you're ashamed or embarrassed, cry.

There are four types of shame behavior.

According to the writers of the academic book Shame, published by Oxford University Press, there are four types of shame behaviors:

1. The Hot Response

When you're ashamed and defensive, you do things like lash out in rage or attack the other person to divert attention away from yourself. In most cases, a hot response is an impulsive reply.

2. Behaviors to Cope With or Conceal Shame

Making oneself feel tiny, avoiding being the focus of attention, or not communicating your thoughts or feelings are examples of these behaviors. Concealing yourself is a kind of self-defense.

3. Safety Behaviors to Avoid Shame or Being Discovered

Apologizing, sobbing, or avoiding conflict are examples of these behaviors. People who are emotionally sensitive or who avoid conflict are more likely to participate in safety practices.

4. Behaviors to Repair Shame

Activities like doing things to calm oneself or apologizing to others are examples of this. If you forget an important anniversary, for example, you can persuade yourself that you had a lot on your mind or make gestures to apologize.

10
$ 5.18
$ 5.18 from @TheRandomRewarder
Avatar for Finley
Written by
3 years ago

Comments

appreciated but i think you should also write about the other side of shame too like those who don't have shame in their are also very cruel its my thoughts btw and hot response of shame behaviour was just amazing keep iy up

$ 0.00
3 years ago

Thanks for leaving. I'll do my work better.

$ 0.00
3 years ago

😁

$ 0.00
User's avatar Doe
3 years ago