All men must strive to be gentlemen not to demonstrate their machismo but to demonstrate their compassion. In a world filled with hatred, malice, and injustice, the gentleman must remain consistent in his commitment to being a beacon of genuine kindness and compassion. However, no one is born a gentleman; to truly become one, one must learn and imbibe certain values. Here are some ways to do so:
Make no distinctions.
A gentleman is a non-discriminating individual. He treats individuals fairly and does not pass judgement on them based on their race, social background, religion, or educational level. His gaze is drawn beyond these apparent characteristics to the core of a person's personality: the character.
Don't be discriminating in your kindness.
A gentleman is not simply courteous to the girl he is wooing, the customer with whom he is conducting business, or the person in authority. A gentleman treats everyone with respect who is deserving of it. He treats his family, partner, janitor, boss, waiter, phone attendant, and celebrity with respect. A good gentleman does not discriminate in his treatment of others.
Do not spread rumours.
A gentleman fights in a fair manner, not stabbing others in the back. If he disagrees with someone's attitude or statement, he calmly confronts them about it. He doesn't take cheap shots at that person by assaulting or berating them while they aren't looking. Gossip is something that is always on a gentleman's no-no list.
Be brave enough to admit your flaws.
Being a gentleman does not imply that you are immune to pain or inadequacies. After all, a gentleman is just another human being. He experiences sadness, disappointment, jealously, wrath, and worry just like everyone else. A true gentleman recognises his vulnerability to such feelings and is courageous enough to share them with those he trusts.
Make an effort to be humble.
A gentleman is self-assured, but most importantly, he is humble. He makes no boasts about his money, possessions, IQ, or physical appearance. He doesn't think it's necessary to brag about his achievements in front of other people. After all, if one is a true gentleman, his worth will be readily apparent to others without him having to brag about it.
Accept responsibility for your errors.
Gentlemen are not faultless, and they make mistakes as well. What they don't do, though, is offer excuses for their errors. If a gentleman fails to do something, he admits it, apologises, and does everything he can to correct the issue. More significantly, he does not place blame on others for his faults; he is solely responsible for them.
Make sure you look after yourself.
It doesn't matter if a person has all the characteristics of a gentleman if he doesn't take care of himself. Self-care should always be at the top of any aspiring gentleman's priority list. He should maintain strong interpersonal interactions while adhering to proper cleanliness, a balanced diet, and frequent physical and mental activity. Remember that a gentleman must first be gentle to himself before he can be gentle to others.
Be chivalrous without being sexist.
There's nothing wrong with being a chivalrous knight. A gentleman should always be courteous and willing to assist those in need, but his acts should never be motivated by sexist motives. A guy who opens the door, pulls the seat, or escorts his lady is admirable. A gentleman, on the other hand, does these things because he respects, loves, and cares for his partner, not to boost his ego as a result of his gender. At the end of the day, the gentleman understands that chivalry, not chauvinism or sexism, must be preserved.
It may appear difficult to be a gentleman, but it all comes down to having the appropriate mindset, attitude, and intention. To make your quest to becoming a true gentleman easier, follow the instructions above!
I agree with you. A gentleman especially must maintain his integrity among People and learn not to depend on people's trust. You have listed every Qualities of a good gentleman.