Dear Singles ❤️💙😍

DON'T MARRY IF...

"Are you ready to pray? Are you ready to let go of your own ambition, will etc., and submit to that of your husband?" She asked.I was confused. What has prayer got to do with this? Sensing my uneasiness, he said, "Michael, I've been married for the past 28 years, and I can tell you that marriage is all about 2 things; love and submission. 3 things also hold a marriage together especially in this world we're living now and they are; prayer, purpose, and character. If you don't have these or haven't built them, then you're not ready for marriage." This came from my mentor as we are having a good time this afternoon Dear singles, don't marry if...

1. YOU'RE NOT PRAYERFUL: 

I've studied marriages, and I can assure you that marriage is all about prayer. How did mummy Funke Felix - Adejumo, Daddy Adebayo and many of them scale through? What about your parents that are still married till date. Have you asked them what has kept them going after all these years? 

In marriage, you come with your own altar, atmosphere etc. You carry a lot of things both spiritual, physical, emotional etc., inside including your partner. Imagine your partner carrying something spiritual that threatens your marriage? What will you do? In that position, beauty will not help you either will money but prayers. 

If you're not ready to pray for a peaceful home, for your children, for your partner etc, please hold on. At your age, your mother still prays for you. What exactly do you think she's doing?

Marriage is beyond both of you. It is a covenant between you, God and other factors of your life and that of your partner. "Two shall become one" in everything. Do you know what has become one between you and your partner? That is why it is important to pray.

2. YOU HAVEN'T LEARNT THE ART & PRINCIPLES OF MARRIAGE: 

God is a God of principle, if He ordained marriage, then He has established a certain guideline for it. Marriage is learned and that is the art of it. How do you learn it? You learn it by studying the pattern God gave which is written in the scriptures.

As a wife, you must know what God says about wife's and their role. You must know your duty, what you have been called to do and what is expected of you. The same thing applies to the husband. 

You must also study other successful marriages around you including the ones in the Bible. Know what they did differently and how they did it. Have a mentor that has achieved result in that area that can guide you, and also read quality books on marriage. 

Before you marry, find out the art & principles of marriage. Let wisdom guide you.

3. IF YOU HAVEN'T BUILT CHARACTER & VALUES: 

 Character doesn't only apply to your actions but your values, virtues and the state of your heart. If you're easily tempered, it is important you learn how to tame it because marriage will bring out everything you have inside including the ones you don't know. 

Offence, conflict and the likes will come, and in such, the virtues you have built will sustain you. Cultivate good character and values which includes honesty, faithfulness, and many more.

 If you're unforgiving, ungrateful and unapproachable, this is the time for you to start working on them. If you're not willing to submit, love, sacrifice,  commit and be accountable; to give up your pride, ego, and will, please hold on till you're ready. In marriage, you lay down because it is no longer about you but about "us".

Build character, build your values. They will do a lot for you along the way. Don't ignore it.