You Can't Nice Your Way Into Being Loved

"You can't nice your way into being loved" Chimamanda Adiche.

I've read a lot of articles on love and I've listened to several people's opinions on love. A lot of people categorize love as being pure, sweet, and frightening, horrible and painful all at once.

The truth about love is, love is one of the basic indispensable things/items in everyone’s life. In a whole lifetime everyone needs to be loved to experience a normal and healthy life.

Love has different definitions to different folks. Every entity will give you their own version of love definition. It is a variety of feelings, emotions, and attitudes. To someone hustling in the streets his definition of love will be different to the man sitted at his air conditioned office. For people like me love is an emotional attachment it is more than just being interested in someone physically. It is being there, living there and everything.

Love is more of how a person feels for another person. The primary meaning of love is to feel more than liking towards someone. It is a connection that two people share.

Whil Love means to be deeply committed and connected to someone or something.

Falling in love with someone can feel exciting, even exhilarating at first. Then as time goes on, these feelings may change into something different. You might find yourself conceiving or believing “I love them” in place of of “I’m in love with them.”

This transformation doesn’t necessarily mean there’s anything wrong with your relationship. It just simply depict how feelings of love change over the period of being in a relationship, particularly a long-term relationship.

CAN YOU NICE YOUR WAY INT BEING LOVED

When it comes to love there are a few things men only care about two when choosing a partner:

Her looks

And her personality - can he put up with it.

These are the basic few not that there aren't others. But these two are the primary one a man can attribute to

While the ladies go ahead to care about a man's : Looks, Intelligence, Fidelity,Humor, Strength, Money,Kindness.

Being nice, as seen from the above can be one of many prerequisites for love.

You know one interesting thing about the heart is that it knows what it wants unless it doesn't care. Even to a heart that has been hurt, it's hard to reject what it wants. You cannot force your way into the heart of a person to love you. Why?, because there is no real formula when it is something that relates to the heart.

It's easy to show or express your love through your deeds by being nice. But you cannot force the other person to reciprocate same gesture If the feeling isn't there. When you become too nice and try to make your way into a person's life it depicts you as being desperate, and as such, is unattractive.

Being nice to someone who's kind won't make her see you as a love partner; it will just make her thankful. However, being nice to a nasty person will make them to use or ride on you.