Every woman has set standards on what kind of man they want to date or to be their lifetime partner. Some women are fun of fantasizing about their romantic partner to be, like those characters they've seen in movies or like those who are in novels without considering it was all a fiction character. Every human has imperfections, every man is flawed equally to us 'women'. Finding an ideal man is hard, because from the word itself 'ideal' it is something unreal or nonexistent.
Some women are so obsessed with their standards, they don't give it a try to date someone who showed them interest when their standard was not meet. They always said 'It is better to be single than to settle for less' yes, of course, it is valid but it doesn't mean when you go for dating or giving yourself and the guy chance to date, you are already settling. A romantic relationship has stages, one or more dates cannot be the basis for settling down it takes a lot of time and consideration before you consider that thing. How will you know that you are compatible with that person if you didn't even give a chance to get to know each other just because he does not coincide with your standards?
Some women just keep believing that destiny will give the right man for them, the right man that fits their standards. Destiny is a matter of chance if you let it slide thinking it ain't the destiny works, then you are doomed. Destiny will only give you the chance to meet the person but it does not work the whole thing for you. You have to work your ass off, you have to flirt for Pete's sake don't be lazy, go and date if you don't want to be an old made lol.
The setting of the standard is good, it could be the basis for the traits you want to entrust yourself with. It can save you from dating unworthy persons, it can save you from entering into toxic relationships 'somehow' yet it cannot guarantee you that you will have a successful relationship by following all your norms. Being so obsessed with your standard is another story, it is not good because you are limiting yourself to the possibilities of meeting someone who is beyond your standards. Don't you know, some people are wearing masks? (not the literal mask to avoid COVID-19 lol). Some people are hiding their true identity in the first stages of dating, they are not showing their real colors on the first basis to avoid bad impressions. You might think that the one who meets your standards are really the one, it is not like that. Are you even sure they won't change at all? are you even sure they are not just pretending to persuade you?
Some reject someone easily just because they smoke or drink liquor on a daily basis, you cannot judge someone just because you saw them once doing it. Reject them if you see they are not going anywhere because they were drowned by their vices. Do not look into outer appearance instead look into the inner soul, and you will only know the beauty of that inner soul when you give a chance to get to know each other.
I started dating when I was 15 years old, I flirt early right? lol but I enjoyed it 😆 I mean my youth was never boring. It was just dating without involving sexual contact (I am clever, I don't let those boys get me lol). I never had a standard before when I am dating, just that I like to go with good looking guys, you know it can boost self-confidence having a handsome boyfriend lol. Actually, I don't trust boys before that is why I had a lot of flings because when they initiate any sexual actions I dump them instantly, I know what they wanted from me, so I leave before anything happens safety first 😆, they are also confident in doing it because they think I am an easy catch, but heck they are wrong. When I reach 18 years old, I already dated 21 guys, call me flirt it's okay but I do preserve myself. The 22nd guy is the last guy I am with right now. As I said I don't have any standard, I date guys to know them first. Until this 22nd guy let me know what should be my standard. That I want a guy who will respect me, who is afraid of touching me because it might offend me. He let me know I want a responsible man, who after stability in life rather than fooling around. This guy showed me respect despite that I am an alcoholic girl, that I go to bars during the night. Actually, flirting a lot is just my camouflage to know real guys who will have respect regardless of what you are. But what about this guy? Well, he gets to know me, the real me without the mask that I am not what others think, and he sticks to me for 10 years now and he also knows he is the 22nd😆 (I am not that pretty, Malandi lang Talaga lol). This isn't applicable to all so date according to your will with precautions.
Always remember, you will only know the real colors of people when you get to know them better. Human is full of complex, even on marriage, every day is an adjustment because you two are a different person living in one roof with different upbringings. Always have room for imperfections, the standard is just lame excuse for commitment.
So for me, the standard isn't that necessary, It is good to set some but don't get obsessed with it if you have then it must be reasonable. This is only my opinion according to my experiences, you can share yours.
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Lol i understood after dating a girl that standards don't really matter much in thenend, what matters if they'll stick by you and respect your boundaries. That's mostly it for me