Watch your anger and learn Patience
Hey guys, it is another beautiful day.
Have you ever been in a position where you feel you can't have it anymore? Yeah, I think every one of us has been in such situations.
Come with me let me share with you an experience.
**MY ANGER AND PATIENCE ORDEAL**
I never knew I wasn't the type to be patient with anyone or anything maybe because I have never been in a situation where been patient with someone or something is required not until I bought my new mini laptop. I also never knew I had a fierce anger issue; the feeling of destroying things when angry.
After a few months, my laptop developed this particular issue of always hanging or loading for a long time than necessary. Well, it started little by little and I had no issue with me holding on for it to load as long as it wants. It got to an extent that it could load for a long time like thirty minutes to an hour and this always made me worked up because most of the time, it starts loading in the midst of when I am trying to get important work or job done.
I don't know if anyone has been in that situation I am talking about, but when it happens like that, I get so worked up and I have this urge to slam the laptop on the wall and smash it into a piece. I get so tensed and angry with anyone that comes my way and I always felt like destroying anything then. I always knew I could do it if I can't control myself and learn to be patient with my laptop.
So this is my remedy to how I control my anger and learn to be patient with my laptop.
Once I suspect, it is about to hang like it just did this morning and made it unable for me to make this post earlier than this, Lols... I am becoming used to it and I try to distract myself by standing up from my seat and walking out of the room or office, so I don't get angry and do something stupid.
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secondly, I make myself busy by doing things I had in mind to do but couldn't do since I was busy with the laptop
Thirdly, I play and make myself laugh or happy to stop myself from being depressed.
Yeah, like me, many of us are like that. Unable to control our anger and be patient with things and people, but we get to learn those things because they not only make us happy but they contribute to making us better people. We most times do not know we have these issues until an incident or occurrence happens that triggers that character, then and only we find out that we can't control our anger or have patience.
Been patient and learning to control our anger is a good virtue but funny enough, so many of us do not possess it.
Yeah, it sounds impossible but it works and saves me from destroying my laptop which I will later come to regret I did it. We should control our anger and learn patience with others than regret our aftermath of what we did during that period.
Not being able to be patient with others leads us to been angry with the person or thing and then, we could do anything
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You can do Anything you set your mind to, just stick to it
We can do anything we want to if we stick to it long enough
It doesn't matter how long it takes, stick to it.
We've got all it takes to do whatever it is we want to do as long as we are determined to stick to it long enough till we succeed.
A journey of a thousand races starts with a step, so no matter how long it takes to reach our long, we should learn never to give up but keep hoping and praying that we get there with every step we take.
As humans, we hate giving up on something after many trials and fail but for anyone to succeed in life, one needs determination, consistency, and God because that is the key to success.
The truth is we've got the strength to stick to something long enough only if we wish to and set our minds to make it happen.
Nothing good comes easy, check out the great men and women who succeeded in life, how many times they've tried a thing but it failed but they never gave up. they still kept on trying till they succeeded and are praised for their hard work today.
The inventor of the bulb is an example, he kept on trying but never gave up, he was determined to succeed and today, he is praised. many more which we all know who were rejected, scorned for sticking to something for too long but they were determined.
Always believe in yourself. Only those who do not believe in themselves and in what they can do always run away from something after the first failure. Failure will come, setbacks will come, but when we are determined and we know what we are doing, we will never give up.
Those who succeed are those who never give there they still keep pushing believing that one day, it will come out successful. Don't lose hope just yet, keep sticking to that goal of yours, it will surely make ways for you.
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Is Life Fair?
I am sure many would say life is unfair because of the challenges they've passed through in life but then I would say life gives to us what it has, making us choose what we want and it is left for us to determine whether it is fair or unfair at a particular period of our lives.
There are good days and they are bad days, just like there are winter season and their summer season. That season never determines how we live our life but we determine what we make do, how we plan, and how we execute our plans during those seasons because they will never go.
No matter how much we have those seasons, they will still come and during those seasons, whatever we see, hear and feel determines how we define life whether it is fair or unfair.
A young girl who lost her both parents at a tender age and is left alone to roam the world would always say life is unfair but I tell you, there will come a time she will never remember those days and will be at the top doing well for herself. I expect we all know what she would say, "Life is fair enough to her".
There is this adage that says, "When life gives you a thousand reasons to cry, always give life just one reason to smile". "Another says when life gives you like, make lemonade out of it".
I guess many of us are understanding the point I am driving at, "Life never gives you what you want, life gives you what you need" and it is your choice to either move along feeling battered and defeated or make use of that moment to it's fullest because we may never have the opportunity of walking in that season again. Whatever your choice is determines if life is fair or unfair to you.
How you see what it gives to you explains how we see life. The truth is if we go around asking individuals about what they think about life, they would so confuse most especially based on their individual's challenges in life but I tell us if life isn't the way it is now, many of us would not have seen reasons to be where we are today.
We won't have reasons to keep moving, pushing, fighting, defeating, and overcoming what life throws at us. We won't have seen reasons to plan our day, to be careful and conscious of every step we take, to be mindful of the company of people we associate ourselves with, to be careful in making career and marital decisions.
We would have been living life like we don't care, and doing anyhow because we know that we will always get what we want.
This only reminds us never to expect too much from life as it comes in various ways. Today, it might be good, tomorrow, it may be bad but all together those two things "Fair and Unfair" make up life.
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Life may be unfair today, but that doesn't mean it will be unfair tomorrow.
Keep moving, keep pushing, keep fighting, don't relent effort, don't lose hope, just do your best, don't go into your room, lock yourself up and begin to wail and waiting for when life will be fair to you because you will get tired of waiting.
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I too am part of those at one point of my life who thought life was actually unfair to me and not just fair but cruel as well but today, thinking about those challenges I faced and who life has helped me become, I just can't continue saying life is unfair and I feel bad to have thought life was unfair to me when it was grooming me up for greater and better things ahead that I was short-sighted to see.
Well, yeah, those period comes when we feel hopeless, dejected, frustrated and begin to think life is so unfair to us but the truth is that season of our lives wasn't meant to be like that.
It was meant to be a period when we look back at how lives and where we began and where we are today and be grateful to God for all that He is doing and will doing in that season of our lives.
The truth is if life was just fair or perhaps unfair, the world would be meaningless and uninteresting but these both make up our lives. These both add spices to our lives and helps us think ahead of the present.
Nothing is ever fair as long as life is involved, you just have to be ready to mould what lives throws at you to your taste.
Make lemonade out of the unfairness of life because life will never be fair except and only we rise and take things into our hands. To produce meaningful things out of the unpleasant things life throws at us.
We actually cannot explain why life unfolds for each of us the way it does and differently. Each man with his challenge differently and uniquely.
I have heard people say life gives to us in return what we give which is karma, some people think whatever happens in a man's life is a result of what we call fate, I.e God's will or plan for our lives coming to materialize in our lives at the appointed time and how God wants it.
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But the truth remains that life or existence is neither fair nor unfair to make what you want out of life.
We should stop having that mentality that life must always be perfect and fair to us every day and in every way, meanwhile, it's not and it can't be. It comes in both ways. Fair and unfair.
Life is in two phases, good and bad, winter and summer, encouraging and discouraging, profit and loss, winner and loser, happiness and sadness, fair and unfair.
Thank you for reading through my blog, your comments and upvotes are very much appreciated.
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Don't the Tough People Deserve to be Loved?
A few days ago, I asked a friend of mine that I have not seen for two years now, I asked him to go into a relationship after his last break up with the love of his life why he is delaying going into another one, he said to me; Evelyn, I am just been careful.
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This sunk into me, that many have gone through this part and have decided to grow a thick skin over themselves just to protect themselves from being hurt.
This is one of the reasons I am sharing this article today.
One of the days, I went to a program and while I stood up to leave, a guy who has not to have a personal chit chat with me walked up to me and said, Evelyn, why are you just been uptight for no reason, do you think you would ever find someone to love with this character of yours?
I just wasn't interested in talking to him or having banter with anyone about my uptight behavior, so I walked away from him and this question keeps ringing in me, when has it become a crime for the tough people to find love and be loved? Do the tough people don't deserve to be loved too?
I just keep pondering on this question and then I decided to share it with you all here.
You know, no man was born a tough being, everyone was created to live his or her life to the fullest but unfortunately, many would not allow that to happen as they love and enjoy seeing other people unhappy.
Because you see a smile on a persons face continually doesn't mean the face hasn't been faced with so much trauma that could have deprived them of that smile, or perhaps you don't know the thousands of scar that their smiles have covered just to look strong, tough and confident.
Do you think this tough person doesn't cry? Or you think they don't wish to drop down their shield and live a normal life just like everyone or you think they don't wish to live that life they've been dreaming of while they were young?
Unfortunately, they wish but they just can't drop down their guard down because they've gotten used to the fact that they just have to protect themselves from the harmful dart coming from left, right, and center, and most especially from people they call friends.
They have decided to build a shell as strong as a crocodile or perhaps a snail to protect themselves from people who do nothing but harm others and enjoy doing that and all you hear people say to this kind of persons are " Why are just been too uptight? You will never find love with this character of yours.
It is just so sickening, when has it become a crime for someone to be careful and be on alert, when? When did it become a norm that, those that are tough never finds love?
You think they don't have a heart or you think they don't cry? But sorry to burst your bubble, those people cry more than you do because they wished whatever changed them never happened to them, they wish they could just go back to being but they can't, because whatever happened to them changed them and made them realize they had another part of them they failed to realize.
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They cry, clean their face, stand up and move on like nothing has happened like they are not hurt and all you do is judge them forgetting that there is an adage that says; "Don't judge a book by its cover" or just maybe it will be an honor for me to rephrase that as " Don't judge at all". If you've got nothing meaningful to say to someone, just keep shut and walk away instead of hurting them the more.
You don't know and can not tell why they are being uptight tough and building a hard skin around themselves, you just go out there and say the first thing that comes out of your mouth all in the name of advice.
Imagine a lady who has gone through the pains of been betrayed by her best friend and cheated by her two years lover, what do you expect her to do? Go about crying?
Hell no! she cries, braves up, and continues moving but with alertness and carefulness. Always ready to strike whoever looks suspicious and builds a tough skin around herself to protect herself from hurt again.
She deserves to love and be loved back because she is human and has gone through a lot.
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When has been protective and tough become a crime in this world? This is my question to every one of us reading this article.
Thank you all for taking out time to read through my article. I love you all😘😘.
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The Marriage was Finally Consummated
There is nothing that makes a man or woman happy other than being married to his or her heartthrob and these beautiful couples holding out the paper just consummated their marriage in the church.
In this Western Region where I come from, the consummation of two people usually starts from the traditional process where the groom and his family go to see the girl's family and after all is said and done, the Bride price is paid.
The bride price is expected to be paid mainly by the groom, this does not include whatever will be listed for him to buy for his soon-to-be inlaws.
The bride's price is to be paid out of his income since he is the one getting married. From then on, the date is fixed for the traditional marriage according to the southern culture which I hail from.
This marks the first step of their love and marriage consummation but it does not end there 👇
According to our religious belief, and according to **HEBREWS 13:4**, it says;
Marriage is to be held in honor among all [that is, regarded as something of great value], and the marriage bed undefiled [by immorality or by any sexual sin]; for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
Although the first step they took has sealed their marital vow, according to our religious beliefs, it has to be done the church way to also consummate it and that includes dressing in the western style, wearing of the wedding gown which can be in white or off white color and the groom dressing in a suit having a best man and a chief bride maid to go and having a train of ladies and men walking behind you.
This is always a special day for all, it is always a day that many spectators usually do not want to miss for anything. As they usually do attend this day to see how beautiful the bride's wedding gown will be and how she how the train of ladies are going to be dressed.
We all know that Saturdays are meant for weddings but I just can not grasp how my church decided to do some changes on some occasions especially when it comes to weddings.
I have heard so many of my friends complained about Sunday's wedding and how boring they could be but I never expected my church to follow in the pattern. It is not like it is a bad idea but we all know when Something is stuck in our brains, it is always hard to adjust to the changes coming up.
Even though I don't plan to consummate my wedding on a Sunday but what would you do if your church authorities decide that the occasion would be taking place on a Sunday because they have a lot of occasions throughout that period?
Yeah, don't be too surprised, over here, the church picks a date that they would be available to consummate your marriage and if you don't like it like that 🤷♀️ you are on your own.
Just this Sunday, these couples decided to consummate their marital vows after doing it traditionally and that paper lifted is as important as brushing her tooth. Yeah, they decided to take their final marital vow in public view even though we know it is not as important as the everyday renewal of their marital vow but they finally did it.
The joy of fitting the marital knot with the woman and man you have always loved can not be comprehended as you will begin to laugh without having reasons to laugh.
I am sure the married couples on the platform can attest to how their day went. With all said and done, this beautiful man and woman consummated their marriage and are no longer Mister and Miss but now Mr and Mrs as they've been pronounced, signed, and sealed husband and wife.
Above all, I wish this couple a successful and blissful marital home and I pray that they shall fulfill their purpose even as a couple.
They shall bring forth Godly seeds and premature death isn't their portion. They shall live to declare the word and promises of God in their lives and shall have no reason to regret the vows they made to each other today.
May the Lord Almighty honor their marital vows in Jesus' name.
Love you all and stay safe.
I found my mate
Wow, I will be turning 18 in few hours, Celine exclaimed as she just couldn't find sleep.
The thought of meeting her mate became the topic throughout these few days as her parents won't stop reminding her that she will soon be ripe enough to join others in the festive moon period.
The period where all those who turned eighteen years and above who are not yet mated attend to find their mate.
Celine could not sleep anymore as she began to count the ticking of the clock till she did not realize it was dawn.
She woke up but feeling weak, as she could not get enough sleep throughout the night thinking about what the day holds in stuck for her. She just wished that today was her school days but unlucky for her, it was the day of the moon festival where she would be pushed to dress up for the day.
She just couldn't go downstairs as she could hear her parents voice, she most days wished she could find a mate as loving as her father but for the past two years, she has seen and heard so many dreading news about the mating ceremony and how most ladies we're forcefully taken from their family by there mates most especially when the girls were unfortunately mated to a son of a King who is an Alpha who will one day become an Alpha too.
Celine was not ready to face her parents yet as she knew they would not let her be but she knew when it was time for the ceremony to begin, they would be waiting for her to come downstairs. She knew she's got no other option than to prepare for the day but she wasn't going to have it their way.
She decided to stand up and stop carrying a sad face like she was grieving for her lost one. She went to her wardrobe to search for something to wear even though she knew that there was nothing fancy in her old crooked wardrobe.
Her wardrobe consisted of her old jeans trouser, black hoods, and the rest of the clothing that doesn't fit such a ceremony neither did she have a lady-like cloth in her wardrobe.
Her parents have so many times reminded her that she was still a lady due to her dressing code even though she was their only child.
Celine had all the money she needed to get herself beautiful and exuberant dresses but she never really liked spending her father's money, instead, she took to being a library attendant in one of her packs libraries.
Celine got dressed in one of her black baggy pants with a flowery crop top and black sneakers to match with.
She packed her hair in a bun style, used some light powder on her face and a little lip gloss on her lip. Although she was dressed casually, she looked so beautiful.
She walked down the stairs only to meet her parent's unhappy faces because they were already behind time because of her.
Their stare looked from gloomy to surprised because they were not expecting their daughter to dress in such a manner on an important occasion ss this even though they knew she never liked this ceremony but she has got no option other than to do it because it is their tradition.
Her parents tried to persuade her to go home and change but it all turned abortive and they knew if they continue, their daughter will go upstairs to her room and never come to her until the end of the ceremony so they kept quiet and allowed her to dress the way she wished.
The hall was a big all and the worst of my nightmare. Smelling of smokes mix with the thousands of people sweats who came out here tonight to find their mate.
She just wasn't cut out for the ceremony, so she decided to make herself busy by checking out the rooms in the hall. As she kept on admiring the beauty of the hall, her nose kept drifting to a particular smell she was enticed with.
As Celine turned eighteen, so many things took place in her life, like a strong sense of smell, and her hearing aid was heightened that she could hear voices as far as another pack.
This is what she knew about from her parents and was experiencing them as she stood afar from the crowd but the scent that was drifting to her nose was distracting her from hearing.
Her wolf made her wolf very fast that she did not realize she was across the street away from the ceremony in the library she worked as a librarian.
Her wolf kept pushing her ss the smell became more intoxicating that she felt like drowning herself in it. As she moved with pace, she did not know how she collided with a strong wall in front of her and fell to the ground. Also, she thought it was a wall but she then realized with wasn't a wall but the back of a man.
The most handsome man I have ever come across, as I tried to get back on my feet, I couldn't because I was becoming weak, all I could hear and feel was my wolf yelping for joy and singing sweetly into my ears of finding her mate. I could not make out what the man in front of me was saying but my intuition told me he was calling me his mate and before I knew what was happening my sight became blur as I began to drift to sleep as I wish all that was happening in front of me would go away when I am finally awake.
I woke up when I felt someone lifting my head into his strong hands and trying to wake me up and when I looked up behold I was enticed no just with his scent but with his beautiful blue eye as I heard my voice say to him in a husky voice; **My Mate**
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You are Addressed The Way You Dress (Dress Decently)
I was walking on the street with my group of friends when an almost nude lady walked past us, Oh My God, being a lady, I felt ashamed but you need to hear the names people were calling her.
Some guys were like " Babe, come, how much will you collect for thirty minutes?" I just couldn't believe a girl will decide to leave her house naked all in the name of fashion trends, who does that?
Been a girl who always loves being in the midst of guys, I have learned and heard so many things and one of the lessons I have learned is their way of approaching different girls with different dressing.
The rate at which girls are going naked on the streets all in the name of fashion trend/dressing is alarming and devastating and funny enough, they are always addressed because of their way of dressing.
The truth is, no responsible guy will approach a lady who is already selling her belonging to the world for free for anything reasonable but watch out for the words that come out of the mouth of people around.
Some of us will say, it is none of their business how I dress, but why then do we get angry, if they call you a prostitute? pardon me, if you are touched on any part of your body because you exposed it for them, what do you do? I am sure those don't go well with you.
Don't get me wrong here, I love nice and beautiful dressing, but don't go to the extent of going naked on the street in the name of dressing and don't start wearing dresses that make you unapproachable or make your appearance look shabby.
There is a difference between dressing decently and beautifully, dressing indecently, and dressing shabbily.
Dress properly to avoid people addressing you badly because the way you dress, is the way you will be addressed. Those parts are for your personal belongings, there are yours to look at and the man who will marry you finally and not for public admiration.
The way dress either brings good people our way or attracts bad people our way. We are a product of what we wear and dressing improperly does not mean you are going to get married soon.
Dressing decently doesn't mean you are old-fashioned neither does it mean you are an archaic person but it means you respect yourself and your dignity.
Stop letting people accuse womanhood like they are the worst human on earth because they are not. Dressing provocatively can cause so much harm not only to ourselves but to others around us.
The way we dress not only harms us or puts us in danger but also affects other people. You are addressed by the way you dress. So dress decently to avoid someone demeaning you.
Women are beautifully and wonderfully made and all we need is the right touch here and there and we are good to go but when we are displaying our bodies all in the name of trend or dress code, we lose value and cause people to look down on us.
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