Relationship is not by force

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Is love do or die?

Is relationship by force?

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Love they say it's a beautiful thing and as sweet as love is, it can kill and it can also ruin lives more so love is sweet when you are with the right person.

Everyone deserves to love and to be loved as well but not everyone can handle this thing called love why? Because some people are not capable of giving back love the way it is been given to them some don't even have the heart to love someone else except themselves and you can't blame them because they might have faced so much in a relationship that made them not to fall in love again.

And that's why we keep seeing heartbreak here and there and there is a saying which says that "a broken relationship is better than a broken home" if you can't handle a relationship don't bother going into it so that you won't hurt someone and yourself as well someone once told me that to stay single with rest of mind is better than being in a relationship that is full of violence.

Lately, there has been so much news about broken homes, marriages, relationships, friendships, etc. Why are all these happening? It is because some people are forcing themselves to be in a relationship that they can't keep for long for instance, if you are the type who doesn't like to share your thoughts with someone and yet you have so many friends don't you know that's automatically you can't keep a friend?

Or you are the type who doesn't like too many people around and yet you have friends it simply means you can't keep friends as well and yet you have plenty of friends how did you want to manage the friendship if you don't want them around then they will start feeling like you don't like them or maybe you are keeping things from them so it's better to be alone than forcing yourself to have friends.

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Now to talk of love, it is said that anywhere there is no love there can't be peace there as a human if you want to go into a relationship with someone you should be sure if that person truly loves you well enough someone you want to love should be your best friend someone you can share your thoughts with.

Love is not just to tell someone"I love you" it takes much more to say I love you but what do we get nowadays I love you is just like a good morning to some people because they don't even have feelings for their partner

Things to check before going into a relationship

Does he or she love you enough?

Is love enough for the journey?

Do I love this person back?

Can I give love back or am I capable of loving back?

Am I ready for this relationship?

Because it is not everyone that is capable of loving and giving love back that's why you see some people saying "I just like her I don't love her"

I remember one lady I met at Dangote Noodles back then she use to be my friend then before she travel out of the country that night I saw her crying then I move closer to ask what happened to her then she said: my boyfriend broke up with me

I just ask why and then she said she's pregnant for him and the guy rejected the baby and said they didn't have an agreement of getting married to each other so why did she get pregnant for him, I wasn't surprised because guys nowadays need a very good explanation before giving yourself to them you need to seat and have a good discussion to know where you are both going to and stop assuming he is your future husband.

Stop jumping into a relationship without any discussion from the opposite sex to avoid breaking your own heart by yourself.

There is a saying that says: "it takes two to tangle" there can't be a relationship without two reaching an agreement It would be wrong to call someone a cheat when you guys don't have an agreement of where the relationship is going.

Love is not a do or die thing so if you are not comfortable with the relationship then walk away

Love is not by force so stop jumping into a relationship without having a good discussion about it he or she might not love you are you think but your assumption pushed you into the relationship and in the end, there will always be issues because you don't know him and he doesn't even know you

Thanks for reading.