Many a times, we get so worked up with dealing with things that are not the issues, Maybe we don't know, maybe we know but are just to scared to face the real issues, but one thing is sure, by facing the real issue comes a lasting solution. How far of a solution can we get by beating round then bush, how much longer before we are fully stressed out, its high time we'd conserve our energy to facing the real battle at hand, diving to the roots. I've been a victim of this accusation, fighting the wrong battles, wars that wasn't really the problem, battles and test that was only existent to help me shine more, to help me love more, to make me a better me, but No while in the battle I became a beast, fighting, raging against people, cursing, seeing enemies all around, expecting negative things to happen any moment, i have been deep drunk in fighting the wrong battles, if only I was aware, they weren't the problem, if I'd knew there was a simple route to peace, i would have taken it long ago.
When you see a neighbour constantly fighting, cursing, making trouble, in short when next you see someone who you know is far from happiness, please don't be a victim of adding to the battles, don't be a contender in the fight, be smart and good enough to know, what he or she really wants is to be happy, wanting the wind of peace and joy blowing all over again, you can help out, there's a way to call the consciousness of a person to the realities of things, they might not be aware they are at war, because they are so used to fighting so it feels completely normal now. But that's not a life worth living. Let's see how we can stop fighting the wrong battles.
First off, the battles is not mainly against people or things, the battles are mostly within ourselves. If only we can be at peace with ourselves, we would see most of the battles are unnecessary. Some grudges, some bad ideology, some low self esteem has made people angry within themselves, and seeing you can't give out what you don't have, you can't possibly give out love when all you have within is hate, bitterness and anger.
Now you see yourself taking offenses in the slightest of issue, you start expecting people to pick on you because you feel you can't be loved, start expecting life to be unfair as your memories tend to feed you with mainly previous bad events, it makes you feel unlucky. You fight this, you fight that, but my dear they are not what you ought to fight, all those are a bye product of the real battle, fight the battle at the source, fight the violence within yourself and see how everything can easily conform to being alright.
One of the main cause of the anger within us, is because of low self esteem, when our ego is feeling undermined, you are no more like you wish to be, people don't see you for how you were being seen or wished to be seen, so you fight them at the sight of a little disrespect, you wanna take that respect by force. Do you know who I am, I will deal with you, I will make sure I make your life miserable, all this and more words coming from a place of anger and hatred are an example of someone who feels his ego has been trampled on, but you really aren't in control of how other people should view you right? Yes right.
You can't force me to like and choose someone as the world best singer if I don't like his or her music. You see that's what we do most times, forcing our wish on peoples eyes, rather than working on ourselves and make them see the result thereof, their perception would change afterwards, you need not fight them, that's the wrong battle, Change things from within. You want to be respected? Do things that demand respect, do great stuff that would be recognized and appreciated, respect comes afterwards. You don't fight people to earn respect, you're not a wrestler, you earn it, you earn by first working on yourself, fight the battle from within, the outside isn't the problem.
Yet another reason for wrong battles are failure, when we fail maybe in finances, that's money wise, career, project, activities and so on and instead of enduring the moment and work harder like we know its the right thing to do, no rather we quickly build a defense, an involuntary defense coming from a place of anger, hatred, because you're expecting people to mock you, laugh at you and tag you failure. You have forgotten failure is a phase common to every successful individual, failure makes the story interesting, failure gets you wiser, it does feel bad to fail, but who says you can't succeed, so try again rather than picking up a fight, you won't win.
Oh yes, you can't win the fight when you're fighting the wrong battles, you haven't yet deal with the problem from the source, it'll only keep generating more and more problem, that is the task of bitterness and anger, to cause problems in peoples life. No jokes, its really isn't simple to deal with, its a deliberate act to be at peace with yourself. To know you're capable of being loved and loving also, to see that you have been successful in time past and you will be successful again, to see that people can't conclude over you and you can rewrite your story all over again, you're that powerful.
Stay strong guys, the battle is won from within not outside, conserve the energy of the shouting, the anger, the strives, the bitterness and channel it into being a better you. You Rock.