When we read about marriages in storybooks, authors paint a picture of a bed of roses. I find this particularly prominent in romance stories. That is why many people, when they get to marriage age, have a lot of wrong ideas about what marriage involves. They emphasize the partying and celebrations of the wedding day. The wedding day is only the first day of married life. Married mates would have to be ready for sacrifices.
Yes, when I say sacrifices, I mean having to let go of what they have been enjoying in the past. For example, you used to sleep on a King Sized bed all by yourself in the past, rolling and tumbling on it. Now, you would have to share the bed with another person. You would also have to share the bathroom, the house, maintenance, cooking, etc... My experience has taught me that marriage is all about sacrifice and forgiveness. Why do I say that?
A marriage consists of two people who come from different backgrounds. Sometimes, from different cultures and statuses. Without compromise and sacrifice, these two can never agree. I have seen a new marriage collapse after a month because the couple did not understand this fact. If you are not ready for sacrifices and making compromises with your partner, forget it.
Sometimes also a marriage falters because one of the partners abuses the second mate. Have you heard of the term domestic abuse or domestic violence? It happens all the time. It usually happens to women in the marriage. Because the man is stronger, he goes on abusing his wife. Some men have also beat up their pregnant wives. All this must stop. Society encourages the abuse by not believing and coming to the aid of the wife.
What if one of the mates cheats on the other? Cheating is also common. Adultery has been the reason for several divorces in marriage. It breaks the heart of the second partner.
If we have experienced marriages like this, we should not despair. Be prayerful about it. Something will happen to correct the situation. That is what happened in the case of Elizabeth Bates in the short story video I produced below. The short story's title is "Odour of Chrysanthemums," written by D. H. Lawrence.
Elizabeth Bates had a husband who was drunk most of the time. She hardly even knew him. But she became free from that slavery. How was it? Well, find out by watching the video.
You can take comfort in her example about marriage. Something often happens to correct the situation.
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