Too much of everything is bad, they say. For this reason, we tend to lose one thing to gain the other. It is a way of creating balance.
If you have seen the movie, Merlin, you will be familiar with this phrase, "when a life is given, a life must be taken". It is a constant phenomenon, even when we do not notice it.
When my Grandpa died, my Aunty gave birth to a baby boy, and he had the skin color of my granddad. If the baby had granddaddy's face, we would have said, it's reincarnation. He is lucky he didn't.
I had wondered if that is what Merlin meant or not. Now, the week, we buried my grandmother, another aunt of mine gave birth to a baby boy.
He had my grandmother's complexion too. Now, does the phrase not ring true in my family? It certainly does.
Life does have a way of creating balance, I repeat. When we work too hard and forget to take care of ourselves, life punishes us by making us sick, so we could take medications, and take quality breaks.
If we go for days without eating, life makes us look thin, so we will notice the malnutrition, and eat well. Or life blows us with an illness called Ulcer, so we will never leave our stomachs without food.
If we have lots of money, life brings losses in various ways. A car that needs repair, a building catches fire, a relation suddenly has financial issues, we run into bad debts, or lose major investments
All these, life is trying to make sure we do not get comfortable with one lifestyle. That way, we don't pride ourselves on being able to do this or that on our own.
Anytime, we grow stronger, the world becomes tougher. Life makes sure, it eliminates, tyranny from our blood and flesh.
We do not have a manual on how to go through life. We learn through experiences, and at the point when we feel, we are understanding life, we get old.
Getting old means, we are near death. Again, life plays his cards well. Yes, you have seen life, and you should be able to live it without hitches.
But life says no, and makes you old, and unable to exercise control as you thought you should.
No one has everything, you may have lots of money but no children or lovers to spend on. Loneliness crawls in.
You begin to appreciate those who have a normal lifestyle. Those with simple, and plain living. Since they are pretty much contented with what they have.
And, they have children, and grandchildren running around and giving them happiness.
On the other hand, if you do have someone to share your wealth with, life doesn't give you wealth or gives you a little. This may put a strain on your relationship, but life doesn't care.
Your children blame you for not being to live a flashy lifestyle like the other kids in school or down the block. Your partner blames you for not getting the flashy lifestyles their friends are showcasing.
Now, what if you have both the money and lovers or children to share with? Life makes you enjoy them less by giving you illnesses, and diseases to battle with.
You spend your time, money, and resources on getting well, so you can at least enjoy your family and loved ones.
If you are not sick, you have a partner that gives you heart attack here and there. One involved with one social media scandal here and there. One who doesn't appreciate your efforts to give them comfortable lifestyles.
Or you end with children who abuse the privilege of a comfortable life. They smoke, drink, party, and engage in unhealthy activities every day.
I repeat life has a way of creating balance.
If you had money, time, good health, and a good lover, and children, what does life do to create balance? Life gives you brilliant children, but these want nothing to do with you.
They hate you because you try to tell them how to live their life. They hate you because you are trying to force your business on them.
Of course, you are looking for an heir. But your heir is setting his sight on things that are different from what you are giving them.
Then, if you had everything, including children who want to take after you and over from you, life takes away the love of your life, quite early.
You spend every day missing them. To make matters worst, your children remind you of them.
For life makes sure one of them has the resemblance of your dead partner, both in character and in body structures
Life has other ways of creating balance for everyone. What is your story?