How you twist your own fate
How true is the saying that "destiny can be delayed but can never be denied?" I believe in that quote because nobody can deny you your destiny but the truth is that you can deny yourself of your destiny, you can twist your own fate with your hands consciously or unconsciously. A lot of people are where they'd rather not be today because they decided to make premature decisions and moves
An experience I had recently convinced me enough that people bring about their misfortune with their own hands. Destiny can be denied, yes it can. There is someone for everyone in the world, the day you were born someone was assigned to you to help you on course of your life journey, if you miss that person due to your own carelessness you have yourself to blame
There is this unhealthy competition and unnecessary rivalry among the ladies of my generation, they believe that they don't need to work out their way to success, they believe in hooking up and getting married to a rich man. They prefer to marry a total stranger who is rich than build together with someone they're in love with. This has been the problem with most ladies especially in recent times
I know a guy who has been in a relationship with a lady, their relationship was going very fine, the guy is not so wealthy but as tleast he was able to stand by the girl in every way he could, they promised unending love and fidelity to each other. The way they were going, everybody thought they'd end up together as husband and wife
Suddenly, the girl started giving attitudes, she stopped calling, she stopped answering calls and never replies chats. When the guy asked her why, she said she was busy. Now guys, this is a red flag, whenever a lady start telling you that she's too busy to answer your calls or atleast return them know that she's up to something strange. The guy continued hanging on believing that his woman would come around but the more he waited, the worse it got. It even got to a point when the lady would post pictures and videos of her posing with another guy in a way that suggests she was in love with the guy, all these were red flags but the guy was blinded by love to notice
It's not like the guy was not showing care to his girl, he tried his best but the girl wanted more, she wanted flashy cars and the costliest jewelry, she needed a man that could buy the world for her but she never thought about the most important thing, "will such man respect and cherish her the way her humble boyfriend would?", she was never sincere to herself because she was blinded by money and materialism
Most ladies are in abusive and unhappy marriages today because they chose their insatiable pockets over their hearts. No man can cherish you more than the one that had his little beginning with you. An already made man can treat a lady anyhow because he believes that the lady came because of his money, to his, the lady is just a property that he acquired with his money
These things are real but the ladies involved don't listen most times. Your lover is supposed to be your destiny helper, your soul mate. If you find the right person do not abandon them because they haven't made it yet, you're supposed to help each other to achieve your life goals, that way you'll value and cherish each other more
So, this my guy got a call from his girlfriend telling him that she's noonger interested in the relationship, the guy pleaded with her to remain but she refused, her mind was already made up long ago. When the guy asked her reason for the breakup she simply told the guy that he's too good for her, can you imagine that?
She further told him that she wants to remain single until she's ready for marriage. The guy later realized that his girlfriend was already all over some guys that returned from abroad and you know how those guys throw money around like they pluck money from trees, they can do anything to impress people especially the gullible ladies. They promise marriage to young ladies who end up breaking up with genuine guys, but they end up using those girls and dumping them. These gullible ladies never learn from experience
If you have a decent hardworking amd promising young man by your side, please encourage him and be patient with him. Also, as a guy, take good care of your queen, she could have left you for a richer guy but he chose you because she love you. Never treat her bad especially when you eventually make it to the top, cherish your queen. Let's not twist our destiny and fate with our own hands