Most young single ladies before getting married are like; " Oh my God, I can't wait to have a daughter ", "I'll be so close to her, she'll be my best friend. We'll be so close that she'll tell me about her boyfriend and first kiss".
It's like most young women want to have a different relationship with their kids than the one they had with their moms. "I'm going to be a better mom", that's the promise they make to themselves since their childhood especially when the mother - daughter relationship had a lot of rough edges from their mom's side.My mom, she don't even know me. She just knows what she wants to know and then she sticks to it without wanting to hear the real truth".
Then when these women have kids, and the girls start grooming, they tend to want to be in their kids life, without trying to get to know them.
They tend to forget about to focus on trying to get that close spot in their daughters life without working out their spot there. Closeness like trust is earned and not demanded for. To get to a destination you have to travel.
They focus too much on raising the girl of their dreams than raising one to follow their dreams.
Do you really know your girl? What's her favorite color ? Does she like her bread with butter or egg? Knowing the need of your kid is important. You're not a good mom when you do all your mom failed to do for you,but when you start doing what your kid really needs. You might had wanted a lot of attachment or friendship from your mom, but your girl might just want her space. So you're too different people, knowing what she really needs and not what you feel she needs is important. So is earning your way into her heart and not demanding for it.
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