In the name of Rahman Rahim Allah Tayala-
Main article: Yasmin Mojahed | Translation: Md. Munimul Haque Edited by Abd Al-Ahad
When I was younger, the world seemed to be a very quiet and tidy place. But when I grew up, I saw that it was not like that at all. I thought everything was based on justice. In other words, I thought that no one could ever be wronged. If any injustice is done, then justice will prevail in all cases. According to my own sense of principle, I have struggled a lot in life to keep everything as it should be. But in this struggle I was ignoring a basic truth of life. Because of my childish idealism, I did not realize that this world is creatively flawed. Just as we humans are creatively imperfect, flawed. There are always accidents and troubles in our lives. Involved in all these problems, knowingly or unknowingly, willingly or unwillingly, we inevitably cause pain in people's minds. The fact is that the world does not always work with justice.
Does this mean that we will stop fighting against injustice and abandon the truth? Of course not. This means that we must not judge this world and everything else by any imaginary or unrealistic criteria. However, it is not easy to do so. How can we survive in such a flawed world, where people are constantly drowning each other in despair, even their own family members are hurting each other? The hardest part is, if someone wrongs us, how can we learn to forgive? How can we be strong without being cruel? Or how can we maintain a gentle mind without being weak? When will we hold on to something? And when will I release it? When more care is taken, it becomes excessive? Is there anything called excessive love for someone?
To find the answers to these questions, we must first get out of the confines of our own lives. We need to find out, whether we are the first or the last, who are victims of suffering and injustice. We need to look at the lives of the people who were on earth before us. We need to think about their struggles and their victories. We must understand that there has never been any progress without hardship and the only way to success is struggle. Realize that suffering is an integral part of the struggle for life and overcoming the suffering and loss of others.
Remembering the shining examples of our prophets, we see that suffering is not just an isolated incident for us. Remember, Noah (pbuh) was oppressed by his people for 950 years. The Qur'an tells us:
The people of Noah denied before them. They denied my servant and said, 'Crazy.' And he was threatened. "
[Surah Al-Qamar; 54: 9]
Noah was so persecuted that:
He called out to his Lord: "I am overcome, so help me." [Al-Qamar; 54:10
Remember the words of the Prophet (peace be upon him) how he was stoned to death. How his disciples were beaten. How they spent their days starving. Other people hurt them in this way. Even before we came into existence, angels understood this kind of characteristic of man. When God said that He was going to create man, the first question the angels asked was about the harmful potential of man. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And remember when your Lord said to the angels:‘ Surely I am creating a caliph in the earth ’, they said,‘ Will you create someone there who will cause mischief and shed blood? And we recite Tasbeeh in your praise and proclaim your holiness. He said, ‘Surely I know what you do not know.’ ”[Al-Baqarah; 2:30]
This tendency of the human race to commit hate crimes against each other is a sad reality. But many of us are very lucky. Most of us have never had to go through the same ordeal as others. Many of us will never see with our own eyes that someone in our family is being tortured and killed. Yet there are very few people who can say they have never been hurt in any way by anyone else. So, although many of us will never know what it is like to die of starvation; What it feels like to see your home destroyed in front of your own eyes, yet many of me know what it feels like to cry with an injured heart.
Well, is it possible to avoid this? I think it is possible. We can never avoid all suffering. However, many catastrophes can be avoided by adapting our expectations, our responses, and our attention to the situation.
For example, it is absurd and utter nonsense to entrust our hopes, trusts, beliefs - everything to another human being. We must remember that it is human nature to make mistakes. So our ultimate faith, trust, and hope should be surrendered to God alone. God says:
“Whoever denies Taghut and believes in Allah, then surely he is holding fast by a strong rope which cannot be broken. And Allah is All-Hearing, All-Knowing. ” [Al-Baqarah; 2: 256]
"Faith in God is a strong rope that cannot be broken." - If we just remember this word, it is possible to get rid of many unwanted frustrations.
This is not to say that we will not love or that we will love less. But how I will love is the important thing. No one or anything but God can be loved the most. Nothing can be given priority in the heart except Allah. And nothing can be loved so much except Allah that it becomes impossible for us to live without that object. This kind of "love" is not love. It is a kind of worship. There is nothing but pain in this love.
Even then, if someone loves like that and is hurt or hurt by others, what is the inevitable consequence? How can we do the hardest work? How do we learn to forgive others? How can we heal the wounds of the mind and maintain good relations with those who do not treat us well?
The incident of Abu Bakr (ra) is an excellent example of such a situation. When the worst slander was spread about his daughter, ‘Ayesha (ra), he found out that the slander was spread by one of his cousins named Mishtah, whom he had been helping financially for a long time. For good reason, Abu Bakr stopped helping the slanderer. Shortly after, Allah revealed the following verse:
“And let not those of you who possess dignity and abundance swear that they will not give anything to the near of kin and the needy and those who emigrate in the way of Allah. And let them forgive and ignore their guilt. Do you not wish that Allah would forgive you? And Allah is Forgiving, Merciful. ” [An-Noor; 24:22]
Upon hearing this verse, Abu Bakr realized that he himself was seeking God's forgiveness. So not only did he continue to help the man, he now began to do more than before.
The essence of being a believer is to forgive in this way. Describing such believers, Allah says:
"And those who avoid serious sins and immorality, and when they are angry, they forgive." [Ash-Shura; 42:37]
‘I make mistakes myself, I hurt others’ - this kind of self-awareness should inspire the ability to forgive others instantly. Most importantly, our humility should be stimulated by the fact that we are sinning against God by sinning every day. Man is nothing compared to God. Even then, the Lord of the universe, God, is constantly forgiving us. So who are we to keep people tied without forgiveness? If we ourselves hope to be forgiven by God, why can't we forgive others? That is why the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) taught us:
"God will not have mercy on those who do not show mercy to others." [Muslim; Chapter 30, Hadith No. 5637]
May the hope of God's mercy inspire us to be kind to others and one day lead us to a world that is truly perfect, flawless, perfect, incomparable, incomparable.