The family is an important part of human life. The nature of human movement is determined by the family. In the Holy Qur'an, Allah mentions home and family as one of His gifts. It has been said, "Allah has made your house your abode." (Surah Nahl, verse 40)
Islam has given many directions to build the house and family as the real abode and shelter of the people. Through which it is possible to form an ideal family. Here are 10 characteristics of an ideal Muslim family described in the Qur'an and Hadith.
Ideal wife selection
The first condition for forming an ideal Muslim family is to choose an ideal wife. The Qur'an instructs in choosing a wife: 'Marry those of you who are' Ayyim '(husbandless women) and those of your slaves who are honest. If they are in need, God will, by His grace, remove their need. Allah is Abundant, Omniscient. '(Surah: Noor, verse: 32)
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, ‘Marry girls four times: for her wealth, for her lineage, for her beauty, and for her righteousness. Then give priority to righteousness. Otherwise you will be harmed. '(Sahih Bukhari, Hadith: 5090)
Having the practice of religion
Ideal Muslim families will have the practice of religion. There will be religious knowledge and discipline, observance of Allah's rules and regulations, recitation of the Qur'an and remembrance, and the commandment of good deeds and the prohibition of evil deeds. The remembrance of Allah will be awakened in their lives. Allah said, ‘I revealed to Musa and his brother: Build houses for your people in Egypt. Make your houses houses of worship, establish the prayers, and give glad tidings to the believers. ”(Surah Yunus, verse 8)
To encourage duality in the family, the head of the family and the parents will present their own example. It is narrated on the authority of Ayesha (may Allah be pleased with her) that when the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) returned home, he had a miswak in his hand. (Sahih Muslim, Hadith: 253)
Ensuring religious education
The ideal Muslim family will provide Islamic education to their children. If for some reason it is not possible to teach in a religious educational institution, it is necessary to ensure that at least the children get the necessary (obligatory) religious knowledge in their daily life. Because it is obligatory for Muslims to acquire the necessary religious knowledge. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, ‘It is obligatory for every Muslim to acquire (Islamic) knowledge.’ (Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith: 224) Would rather establish a prosperous library in the family. In addition to the basic beliefs and rules of Islam, there will be books on the interpretation of the Qur'an and Hadith, books on Islamic literature and history and tradition. Make children accustomed to Islamic literature. It is narrated, ‘Knowledge is the lost wealth of the believer. When he finds it, he saves it and searches for other lost objects. '(Shaykh al-Albaani said that the authenticity of this narration is saheeh.
So it is necessary to create an atmosphere of religious knowledge in the family.
Mutual accountability
In order to build a family as an ideal family, it must have the practice of ‘commanding good deeds and forbidding evil deeds’. In this case, the children will be accountable to the adults and the adults will present themselves as role models to the children. Will be ashamed to commit crimes in front of them. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “Beware of those who are near to you.”
After this verse was revealed, the Prophet (peace be upon him) gathered 30 members of his family and warned them, "Save yourselves from the fire of Hell." (Tafsir Ibn Kathir). So Muslim families will guide themselves through mutual consultation, cooperation, accountability and warning.
To be free from sin and sin instruments
The ideal Muslim family will be free from sin and the instruments of sin. Because the instrument of sin encourages sinful deeds. And sin destroys family order and peace. Even the worst use of any good material will keep it away from the family. And the misuse of materials must be avoided. One can learn from the following hadith about the use of good and bad things. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, ‘The example of an honest companion and a dishonest companion is like that of a perfumer and a blacksmith. You may buy perfume from a perfume seller or get its fragrance. And the blacksmith's blow will burn your body or your clothes or you will get its stench. '(Sahih Bukhari, Hadith: 2101). Abdur Rahman Hasan Janka said, ‘Character must be corrected from the roots to put out the fire of separation and resentment between individuals and families. Because sinful people want to move away from family and relatives. Sin removes instability in him. '(Al-Akhlaqul Islamia and Asasuha: 1/36)
Discipline of time
Establishing time discipline is essential for an ideal family. In particular, there must be time discipline in family prayers, worship and religious knowledge. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And be careful of (your duty to) prayer, especially the middle prayer, and be humble before Allaah.”
Apart from this, it is also important to ensure that the children study, eat and drink, play sports and sleep on time. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, 'On the Day of Resurrection, no servant will be able to move forward until he is asked where he has spent his life (time), what knowledge he has used, where he has earned wealth and where he has spent it Where has it been exposed? '(Sunan Tirmidhi, Hadith: 2417)
Protect privacy
Protecting family privacy is one of the hallmarks of an ideal Muslim family. It’s not just the privacy of married life; Privacy must be protected in other matters as well. Highlighting the method of resolving family disputes, the Holy Qur'an says, "If you fear a dispute between them, you shall appoint one from his (husband's) family and one from his (wife's) family." (Surah An-Nisa ', verse 35)
From this verse it is understood that if there is any crisis in the family life, they should keep it a secret and solve it themselves. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “The worst person in the sight of Allaah is the husband who goes to his wife and the wife who goes to her husband, then reveals that secret.” (Saheeh Muslim, hadeeth: 1438)
Mutual cooperation
Family members will cooperate with each other in household chores. Don't depend on anyone. Teach children to be self-reliant from an early age. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to assist his wives in family matters. God loves family cooperation and compassion. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, ‘When Allaah wants the welfare of a family, He bestows compassion and love on it.’ (Musnad Ahmad, Hadith: 1593)
Curtains and decency
Islam has instructed both men and women to behave decently. However, since the attraction of men towards women is much stronger, it has instructed women not to display feminine beauty. Asked to refrain from obscene clothing and behavior. It has been said in the Holy Qur'an, "Stay at home and do not show off like in the age of ignorance."
Not just outside; On the contrary, he has instructed both men and women to stay at home in a dignified manner. In verses 31 and 58-59 of Surah Noor, Allah has instructed to wear modest clothes in front of the child who understands. They are asked to take permission before entering the house at a time when decency is lost (before Fajr, at noon rest and after Esha).
