The Reality Of Life: Being A Boy

You know how in life, things just seem to kinda go out of line and stuff, well right now, it seems identify confusion is at an all time high.

Some people are wondering what gender really means, like, is it a social construct, is it defined by biology, or nature or God. Or is it just stuff humans invented to sort of give order to an orderwise orderless reality. Well for me, as a Christian, I can proudly say I am a boy.

Some might say male, boy, man.... Whatever, you get the gist. It's just kind of baffling to see people battling and arguing about problems that are very surface level and could easily be fixed, if we just allowed our eyes to see. Which is than males or boys or men... Whatever, are more masculine looking( even though most of the time, it doesn't imply that they are more masculine individuals) compared to women. Men are built for more of balanced and muscle work, like construction and sports and heavy lifting naturally than their female counterparts. Etc. It seems males utilize more of the left side of their brains( focusing on logic and analytical thought) than the right part of their brains ( which is responsible for more emotional, empathetic feelings and thought). Note... This is in no way trying to imply that women are more empathetic than males or than males are more logically sound in decision making. As in this present times both boys and girls are equally foolish in terms of making decisions.

(Note:The above image is gotten from unsplash. With search title "boy")

That being said, due to high rate of identity politics and gender arguments. I just wanted to State the obvious. If you see yourself born with a penis( male reproductive organ), and you are capable of producing sperm, you are a male. Irrespective of how you look or what you like by preference.

And this is the reality of life.

And sadly, our reality isn't entirely always defined by our preference, for example, there are certain roles expected of males that once they become adults they have to start fulfilling... Being production, provision and protection as well as leadership and income earning. ( I'm not saying that all men accomplish this, neither I'm I saying that all men must accomplish this to be men, or that any man who has not accomplished all this expected roles are not worthy of manhood) that I don't entirely agree with the way the economy has become. With money losing value and jobs becoming scarce etc. It is obvious that this roles expected of men are getting more difficult to fulfill. And of course it's obvious that it has unfortunately driven so many boys( especially youths) to make decisions that are straight up abominable and inhumane, just in a quest to make money in order to provide and be counted worthy to lead.

For this reason and many others I don't advocate for the pressures placed on men. But even that being said, denying manhood will not be a solution as it will only lead to confusion, bitterness, and I would have to start dealing with the problems girls face as well. Which I don't consider an upgrade not do I look down on it. AND THAT'S THE REALITY

(Disclaimer: All images used in this article are gotten from unsplash )