How to help children deal with divorce...! (EN)

Positive education focuses on helping children solve problems so that they can overcome difficulties. There are changes in the lives of adults that add difficulties to children, especially when they are already experiencing problems.

If you want your children to learn to deal with the separation of their parents, that is, divorce, it is necessary to teach them to be able to overcome difficulties by first teaching them to solve problems, do not give them negative consequences that add to their problems.

• Try to be as objective as possible. In any home, whether parents live together or apart, there are setbacks. When your kids start blaming you for something, don't take their words at face value.

• Well, they vent their emotions with the father they live with, therefore, they are only venting.

• Don't feel guilty. According to research, children who tend to become productive and happy adults are those whose parents are disciplined and loving. Don't let them do what they want, just because your conscience pricked you.

• Don't give them all your likes. If your children insist that they need new clothes and other things every once in a while, don't be manipulated by their demands and stay firm in the denial.

• If you are divorced and every time you disagree with them you want to go with your dad, explain that both you and he decided what was best for you.

• When there is favoritism. Many times the father can be more affectionate and generous with one child than with the other. It is good that you are attentive and see if this case exists in your family, since that can make someone feel unappreciated. First of all, talk to her husband, and if he does not change his attitude, then make the child understand that he is not to blame for how her father behaves.

• Assure them that what really counts is the love between parents and children. After a divorce, many times the economic situation drops considerably. Then they resent this, explain to them that other things in life, apart from money, are also important, perhaps at the moment they will not pay much attention to you. But you will have planted a "little seed" with true family values