How to talk to anyone and everyone: 3 simple tips to start a conversation with anyone.

Have you ever had trouble striking up a conversation and wanted to avoid feeling awkward?

Do you long for the confidence, charm, and guts necessary to approach strangers and form friendships?

Do you feel at ease conversing with strangers?

Or do you get frozen at the thought of striking up a conversation with someone you've never met?

Well, this was me throughout high school. I was always frightened of approaching a stranger on the street or simply anybody to start a conversation. I was a highly social person behind the walls of social media. I've been praised countless times. "Oh god Debs, you're so amusing". "I adore the way you keep the discussion going".

These were my inboxes on social media. And I enjoyed it each time. The trouble arose when the time came to meet each other. The entire thought made me shake and caused me tons of headaches, restless nights, and sweaty hands. I would refuse at the end of the day, providing absurd reasons for not being able to meet up.

"Uhmmmm, I've got school works".

"Yunno it's nearly examination week and I have so many tasks to catch up with before the deadline.

"I'll be helping my mum out this weekend, so I'd be busy. Sorry I can't make it"

This was me then. Social media badass conversationalist. But in real life, I lose the courage to engage someone in a discussion. I didn't have many friends in high school due to this.

I couldn't meet new people, establish friends or connect easily. I wasn't an introvert per se(well, maybe I was then), but I liked going out, and having fun and always aspired to meet and develop fantastic friends. But I kept being hit, shaking, and pulsing when it's time to approach them.

I even googled various line breakers. I genuinely memorized a whole bunch of them. Spent half of my study time, committing them to heart. But towards the end of the day, I would be smiling shyly and stuttering when it was finally time to converse. I couldn't utilize them, I don't know why. Maybe, I believed it was probably because I was usually anxious. But, my memory would turn blank when I wanted to utilize the sentences I memorized.

You may concentrate on learning tactics rather than trying to remember lines. After all, you may customize them to fit your needs and add YOUR flair. Let me teach you my three go-to methods for striking up a conversation with anybody.

a. Pose a query.

The simplest approach to strike up a conversation by far. Why?

It relieves strain on you and offers you a justification or justifications for participating. You immediately place the ball in their court. However, you could now be thinking, "What type of question do I ask?"

Start by choosing straightforward, uncomplicated questions. Don't go too personal. Make the most of the circumstances. When visiting a new city, find out where to dine. Ask for information during an event, such as beginning timings. in a bar? Ask them for a drink recommendation.

A fantastic strategy is to ask for advice, opinions, or suggestions. They'll feel valued and listened to.

Even questions with known answers are acceptable. Here, you want to start things off. After that, you may veer off into a more in-depth discussion.

b. Add a comment.

Do no questions come to mind? Make a brief declaration. Determine their response and ask them to provide their thoughts on the lecture you just saw, the venue's decorations, a nearby event you heard about, or the lecture you just attended together. However, there is one thing to remember to prevent shooting oneself in the foot:

Avert critical remarks.

It's simple to connect through tiny (or even significant) annoyances like lengthy lines, extreme heat, overcrowding, and bad traffic. We both have days' worth of complaints in us.

It can seem like a sweet way to communicate, but it creates a depressing tone for the whole exchange. Being connected with complaints and coming out as negative is simple.

Always begin with a strong, upbeat tone. Both of you will be set up for a nice talk and you'll create a far better first impression.

c. Give them a compliment.

A compliment is a natural and flattering way to break the ice. Mention something

specifically that you appreciate or like about them so you sound sincere. You could make a comment about something the person’s wearing, how they handle a situation, or anything else you admire.

After you break the ice, continue chatting so you can learn more about the person. For example, you could say something like, "I love those shoes! Where did you get them?" or "That shirt color really pops on you!"

As another example, you could say, "You really handled that argument with a lot of grace."

Just now, we discussed the importance of starting strong. How about starting on a happy note, lifting someone's spirits, and brightening their day, all while establishing a dialogue?

You may do this by beginning your sentence with praise. But you have to abide by two rules. Don't worry, these are quite easy:

Rule 1: Be truthful.

Most individuals have excellent deception detection skills. You don't want to begin a new encounter with bogus enthusiasm, even if they can't. It serves neither party well. Therefore, only use this tactic if you truly see anything to commend them on.

Rule 2: Only provide nonsexual praise.

Avert upsetting others or coming out as aggressive.

Talk about their stylish shoes, wonderful hairstyle, and nice clothes. Or, even better, give them praise for a job well done. The goal is to speak about something they choose or had influence over since they will feel proud of it or validated if you do.

Avoid commenting on someone’s physical appearance too much since it could make some people uncomfortable.

With these techniques, you can be authentic. Any of these may be used to naturally start a discussion. They'll aid you in being genuine and coming up with something to say. Your hobbies and things that attract your attention will direct them, making it simpler to transition into new areas.