You Can Live Longer As A Man If You Do This.

I know you will be wondering why I gave this article the above title. Well, this is to show how important it is for me and you to understand that the longevity of the life of a man is hinged on how well he can understand what I’m about to say in this article. Let me make it clear that this article is not in any way for or against women i.e. it is not an article in favour or against feminism therefore I would want every woman both old and young to help me by spreading the message to their men because this will save them from heart attacks which will lead to untimely death. For every married man on this platform, this is the type of article you will need to save for future reference because ignorance cannot and will never be an excuse if you eventually fall victim to what I am about to say, so I urge you to remove every form of bias from your mind and try to approach this article with a clean mind for a proper understanding.

First, I will like to start by dropping this question in a bid to get your mind rolling and thinking because I have learnt that it is only when our mind is filled with thoughts and questions that need urgent answers that we go the extra mile in search of answers. My question is this; why do we have more deaths on the side of the men than the women or rightly put, why do we have more widows than widowers? I know that this question will spur you into the path of critical reasoning which I believe will lead you to a greater understanding. To be clear, the question above those not encourage or mean that any gender should die more than the other so I crave your indulgence to not see the question in that light.

Now, if you have been able to lay hand on the above question, you will understand with me that the rate at which our men suffer both heart attacks which leads most of them to death is very alarming. This is because most of our men have developed this wrong mentally towards the family and women in general. I will explain these concepts as it affects the life of a man if he eventually mismanages them. Let us look at the first and the most important amongst the two which if all men understand, I bet the rate of death will decrease to a reasonable significant.

The Woman

This is the first concept that has mostly be misunderstood by both old and young men in our generation today especially within the developing countries of the world. The pertinent question to ask is; who is a woman and why did God create the woman? If we take a look at the bible story of creation, we will understand better the reason why the woman was made and who the woman is. Now, I will try not to bore you with the long story of the creation but I will just hit the nail on the head. When the first man Adam was created, the story made us understand that God saw that he was lonely therefore he created the woman to be his companion.

The first duty of a woman in every relationship is companionship but the challenge the women face is that most men do not give them the necessary atmosphere to act and be the companion which they are made to be. How do the men do this? First, when the man decides not to share his problems with his partner because he feels she may not have the solution to his problem. This becomes the very first wrongdoing of the man and this leaves the man to carry the weight of whatever the problem is alone and in no distant time, he will start having high blood pressure due to constant thinking and yet without finding any solution.

The man can also not give the woman the enabling atmosphere to do her natural duty by seeing the woman as someone who is not meant for greater things i.e. when a man sees the woman as a being meant for only procreation and kitchen duties. This makes the man not give the woman an equal opportunity to give out the gifts God embedded in her from creation.

Let us look at the current Director-General of the World Trade Centre Prof. Ngozi Okonjo Iwela who is just like every other woman. The question to ask at this point is; what could have been her story today if the husband did not give her the enabling support to pursue her career in life? Probably she would have been in one fine mansion built by the husband, raising kids, cooking and carrying out her woman duties but the consequences would have been that no one would have known who she is let alone seeing her on the world stage.

Now, the husband can easily have access to meet with the heads of governments any time she wants it to be. Don’t forget that the husband is a renowned neurologist who has made his mark in the world of medical practitioners but he could not have placed his name on the world map without the help of his wife. This should serve as an eye-opener to those men who still see women as those who cannot and should not be given the chance to pursue their life career.

The second concept is the one every man knows but most men misunderstand it.

The family

The family is like a moving car with the man as the driver of the car. No driver will drive a car without the tyres, engine, steering and so many other vital parts of a car. This is how it is in a family. The man must understand that he is not the sole player in the game of family because once he begins to see himself as the ultimate decider of what will happen in the family, he is completely relegating the woman to the background which will make the woman not to contribute meaningfully to the affairs of the family. The man must be ready to give a listening ear to the woman at all times because most times, the men are heavily saddled with a load of making ends meet while the woman sees and notices the changes happening to the children and when the woman is subdued, the work becomes more tedious for the man.

The family game is meant to be played between the man and the woman which if played well, the children who are the spectators will enjoy the game just as we sit and enjoy watching football matches. I know that there are a lot of men out there who do their best to give the woman the required support for them to grow in their career but if you are a man and you have been living and playing the game alone, please pulse and take some steps backwards in a bid to make the necessary correction otherwise you will end up working yourself out and the funniest part of it is that once death happens, you will see that woman you did not allow to chase her dreams, she will jump straight into it even with the support of the children.

I urge you to do your best as a man to help reduce the rate of untimely death amongst the male folk. Live a life filled with openness and a heart big enough to accommodate the woman in other to allow her to pursue her carry even as she carries out her duty as a woman at home. Share this article today to help save the life of a man. Happy Easter to you all.  

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