When last did you say a warm thank you from your heart to someone who went out of his way to help you do a job, gave you a solution to your problem, extended a helping hand by way of giving you financial support or even that person who gave you a cup of water when you needed it the most? It may interest you to know that a lot of people have forgotten what it means to say a warm thank you from their heart. This can be caused probably because of the hardship of life or just because they lack gratitude in their life. Appreciating the good deeds done to them by others becomes so hard that they end up closing the door of good deeds from people in their life. Most times we find ourselves struggling to make it in life with every effort coming to futility because we have thrown away our sense of appreciation and gratitude, this leaves us in a state of poverty because we are unable to get people to help us in life. We all know that we exist for each other and it is a known fact that no man is an island.
When you see that you have done everything humanly possible for you to live above lack and poverty yet you are still struggling to make ends meet, you should take a minute to look at your life as a means to understand if you have in one way or the other closed your door of good deeds from others with your constant ingratitude. No man will feel comfortable helping a fellow man who does not appreciate even the smallest of good deeds. It is said that when you say thank you to somebody who has done you a favour, you are opening the door of good deeds towards you in the person’s heart and if for any reason you come back for more, they will not hesitate to help you. You cannot eat your cake and have it. Whenever you receive favour from anyone, you must make sure not to forget that your thank you will make them understand better how much you appreciate their good gesture but if you do not say a warm thank you from the heart, you have ended up eating your cake and you know that once you have eaten your cake, you cannot have it again.
A lot of people will give excuses like; I was in a hurry, the favour came from a stranger and some will even say that it was not a big deal for the person to help them. These and many other flimsy excuses come out of people’s mouth when they are asked why they did not show gratitude for a favour done to them. It becomes worst in the family probably because we think it is nothing when a sibling extends a little help to us either by helping us wash our clothes, do the dishes, run some errands for us especially in the case of older siblings as against the younger ones and so many other ways. This does not end with just the siblings it cuts across parents and children alike. As a child, when your parents extend a helping hand to you, do you see it as though they are doing their natural job of parenting or do you see it as a favour coming from them? The same thing applies to the parents when the children go out of their way to give a helping hand to you as a parent, do you see it as what you rightly deserve from them or do you see it as a hand of favour coming from them?
Our world is suffering today because of a lack of gratitude and appreciation which has gradually turned to be a norm and no one is talking about it. These days you will see someone receive favour from another person, they will just act as though it is their biological right for the person to do them the favour. We cannot have a better world or society if we choose to close our eyes to this ugly evil called ingratitude. It has even become worst in the religious environment. Most of our clergymen see what we do as our way of serving the Lord so they do not bother themselves to appreciate our sacrifices in the house of God. This becomes more evident in their statement of God loves a cheerful giver and givers never lack. We must wake from our slumber to relearn how to say a warm thank you from the heart whenever we have received one favour or the other from someone.
Ingratitude takes a man faster into poverty because no one will want to be of help whenever you need help. Let people know how much you value the favours you receive from them because it is not your right which is why it is called a favour. Search your heart and check if you have in one way or the other shown ingratitude to someone who did a favour to you and if you find out that you have been ingratitude please go back to that person and appreciate them for that which they have done for you. We can live a better and wonderful life if we show gratitude for every favour we receive.
