What I am about to say this morning is something that has eaten deep into the fabrics of our family and societal growth. It is of paramount importance that we all join together to condemn it as much as we can because if we do not do anything about it, we will be positioning our family life and societal growth into jeopardy. What am I saying? Have you heard about adultery or have witnessed it either as the wife or husband whose spouse is cheating on? Have you witnessed it as a child in the family where the mother or father is engaging in adultery and you are left with nothing to do? The reason why we should all join hands in fighting this evil is that it goes beyond the culprit and flows into the minds of the children who may not know that a part of them is unknowingly copying what they are seeing.
I have heard stories of married women whose husbands left in the country with the children and travelled to another country in search of greener pasture go into adultery even in the presence of the children. Some of them go to the extent of bringing in another man in the house with the story of him being her distant cousin who has been in the village.
Now the thing is that when these children grow up watching these things happen, they will grow up to believe that it is no sin or crime for a married woman or man to bring in another man or woman to come and live with them in the family meanwhile the said individual is someone they are committing adultery with.
Once a child sees these things and copies them, society becomes at risk of not healing from the ills of adultery even in years to come. If we look closely, there is a very big tendency that a child who grew up in a family where the mother or father was involved in adultery will grow up to live out what he learnt from childhood. What can we do to put a stop to this enemy of society? First, we must look at what makes one go into adultery and this will lead me to pose these questions.
· What can make one go into adultery?
· Why go into marriage if you know you will not be faithful?
· What are the dangers of adultery?
What can make one go into adultery?
This question is very important and for me, I will try to give a little reason to what might make a man or woman go into adultery even though some persons may just go into it because it has become a habit the learned while they were still single. One reason I strongly believe to be the cause of adultery in marriages is a lack of love. I know someone will want to argue about it but it is as clear as water that if someone loves you, they will not do anything to hurt you. First, let me look at what happens when we say someone is committing adultery.
To commit adultery is to allow another man or woman aside from your spouse to have canal knowledge of you. So tell me, does it still sound like love if you allow another man or woman to have access to that which crowns the family? Once there is no love, anything can happen therefore it is important to always work on the mutual feeling of love in the marriage so that it does not die.
Why go into marriage if you know you will not be faithful?
This is the part that gets me worried. Some people have grown with the notion that they cannot stay with just one partner and this starts while they are still dating. One thing every one of us must look out for when searching for the right one is that person who does not double date. Believe it or leave it. If you are not able to stick to one partner during dating, you will find it very hard to stick to one wife or husband for life.
This is not rocket science it is simply the law of nature. When you are not able to date one partner, you will end up going into adultery during marriage. Some will say that they will change once they get married but I tell you that habits are easy to form but very hard to let go of. So before you prepare your mind for marriage, first learn how to leave and stick with one partner.
What are the dangers of adultery?
The dangers inherent in adultery are numerous which is why one must try to avoid it at all cost. The first and commonest danger is family destabilization. For anyone who those not know, adultery destabilises family growth. This is where the man or woman does not care about the growth of the family because he or she is busy spending money on the other party with who he or she is engaging in adultery.
Another one is the danger of contracting and passing on sexually transmitted diseases to the other partner (STI). This happens easily because the cheating partner will end up getting infected and passing it on to the partner. The next danger is what led me to write about this in the first place. The children are forced into living and copying this lifestyle unknowingly and this makes it very hard for the trend to ever stop. Any child who grows up in a home where adultery is practised by either of the parents will not believe in the word called love. Because it will damage their understanding of what love means and stands for.
This is a clarion call for us to look into this matter and work very hard to ending it to avoid plunging society into endless cases of adultery. #SaynotoAdultery.
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