Have you ever seen kettle water placed on top of fire boiling? For someone who is just seeing it at that boiling stage, you might think that the water was never cold at some point or that the boiling process just happened instantly. Whenever you come across a burning bush or a raging fire, you will not know that the fire at some point just started with an ordinary spark or just a lighted match stick. For clarity sake, I will like to state that this article is not about fire, boiling water or a match stick rather I used those items and scenarios to make an analysis which will lead us to the main purpose of this article.
You must have seen two persons who are seriously fighting each other either because of an insult or because of an issue that has happened way back. Each time I see two people fighting each other the first thing that comes to my mind is; have they been this angry all their lives? I try to understand why someone will all a sudden find himself in a serious and life-threatening brawl with another person just because of a little provocation, which either of them could have controlled but because they did not understand that the human mind has a limit to the level of aggravation it can take at any giving moment, they ended up crossing that limit which leads them into a physical confrontation.
Let me ask us this question; how do we manage anger whenever it starts building up inside of us? What most of us don’t understand is that anger does not come just with speed of lightning or a bullet, it comes very slowly and keeps increasing just as it is with kettle water and its boiling point. When we are into an altercation with another person, we tend to forget that it could lead to something more than an exchange of words. That is why when two people who were fighting are finally separated, the first thing that will be running through them is regret because either of them could have walked away from and avoided the whole drama and embarrassment.
As a person, you must make a conscious effort to knowing the limit to the aggravation your mind can carry, in that way you will avoid such ugly scenarios where you find yourself fighting for something you should not be seen engaging in a physical fight for. Why do you think a man will raise his hand to beat his wife at home? It simply because the man has not and does not know the limit to the provocation his mind can withstand. You may choose to call it anger control or anger management but the truth of the matter is that you must first understand that you should not allow your mind to cross the limit of provocation it could handle at any given time. For one to be able to manage his anger level, he must first know how to gauge its limit so that he can be able to understand that he is about to cross his line.
There are a couple of things to look out for whenever you find yourself in a situation that may lead to a physical fight. For me, I have taken some time to study my mind as regards to how I react to anger at the initial stage and I have learnt that my mind usually gives me signals. The first I will notice is that the number of words coming out of my mouth will begin to decrease. I will notice that words will start to fail me and this will lead me into stammering and at this point, if I don’t remove myself from the place, I will end up engaging in a physical confrontation. Now, most persons may have been noticing similar signs whenever they are about crossing that line but because they have not taken time to understand themselves, they will keep crossing the line. My advice will be for you to study yourself to know that signs your mind gives you at every moment you about to cross that limit.
When you must have learnt or known the signs your mind gives you, the next step is to know how to switch off your anger even amid a serious provocation. For me, I have devised one method which has been working for very perfect for me when it comes to anger management. I noticed that each time I am getting to crossing that limit and I began to either sing a song or listen to a tune play in my head, I will end up walking away thereby not crossing the limit. Someone might say that his method is by just keeping quiet or walking away from the person or the thing that is trying to push past your limit. Whatever you can do to manage your anger, you must try so hard to make sure that you don’t get to cross your limit.
Just as I pointed out at the beginning of this article, anger does not just come all of a sudden, it comes gradually until it gets to the level where your mind will be unable to control it and that is when you will see yourself going into a physical fight with another person because you failed to manage your anger. So I want you to look at anger management as something you must try to cultivate as a human in other not to get into fights with others. For your information, people and situations will always provoke you at every given time so the better you learn how to control it the better for you. Be wise and don’t allow that which you can control to control you.
