Age and Love ❤️

I can't fall in love with you, you are as old as my father...

We are in a world where a lot of factors are considered before love is validated or crowned in marriage, but should that be the case? Well, in this post I will be looking at Age as one big factor that determines love and what we do in love. I will focus this discussion on Africa, especially Nigeria. Mind you, this post is very much open for you to contribute your thoughts and opinions. Secondly, all the opinions and ideas expressed in the course of this post are all mine and must be treated as such. If for any reason you find anything contradicting your beliefs as regards love and age, please kindly call my attention to it in the comment section. Let's get down to business.

Love

I am not going to waste any energy trying to explain what love is to anyone reading this post. Let me just say this, love is that which makes one act in ways they would not if there is no love. Having said this, let us look at love and how it connects to finance. Most times we see cases where a man's intentions are turned down right on his face. Most times this happens when the lady in question finds out that the said man is not financially buoyant. One question I have always asked myself any time this happens is; does money define love? This is a question that answers because I believe it is one of the biggest challenges a lot of our young men face in issues of love.

I am not denying the fact that money goes a long way in making love sweet but does that make money the only factor to focus on? I will love to get the opinions of others, especially the single ladies on this platform irrespective of where you are coming from or what is practised in your country. In Nigeria today, this is one of the reasons why young men end up taking the high way to success because they have been unconsciously made to believe that money is all that matters in love. If a young Nigerian man says I love you, he is expected to have a good amount of cash in his pocket for expenses. This is not only seen in the young ladies, it is also seen in the questions most parents ask their daughters whenever they talk to them about relationships.

What does he do most times becomes a means to weigh the young man's financial capacity. At the end of it all, most parents base their decision on this and that is when you will hear things like;

He is not good enough for you.

I don't think he can take good care of you and so many other reasons which are based on finance and not on love. To my greatest surprise, I still see people who complain about how badly their partners treat them daily yet, they remain so stuck in such relationships or marriages. I found out that most of these people who are being maltreated and yet do not run away from such relationships are just holding on because of the monetary gains they are getting. Now, this leaves me to ask this question. If truly money is what determines love why then do we see people who are living in great wealth divorcing? I will allow you to find the answer to that question by yourself.

Age

This is another factor that I wanted to talk about because I have seen and heard a lot of people talk about it either against or in support of it. First, let us look at love as it concerns age.

In other to have a better understanding of love and age, let us look at this question. At what age do humans begin to express love? Mind you, love is completely different from sex, so don't misconstrue the two. If we can answer this question genuinely, we will understand that love happens when it chooses to happen irrespective of age. The greatest challenge we face in our works today, especially in Africa is that we believe that one cannot love another who is older or younger. This is why you hear parents asking their sons and daughters how old the person they want to marry is.

In that way, they have ended defining love as regard age and this makes it very hard for a lady to marry a man she is older than. This day people do not ask the vital questions that determine true love rather they focus more on things that do not matter. At the end of it all, marriages are allowed to stand on such a shaky foundation that falls in the face of a little challenge. Why is it hard for a man to marry a single lady who is older than him in Africa? I have come in contact with single ladies who are very much older than me and they radiate so much love that I begin to feel sad because of the age difference. I am fully aware that they understand what love is more than the younger girls out there but due to their age difference, no single young man will feel comfortable marrying them. Just because of what people will say if they find out that their wife is older than them.

A lot of men have left the right woman for them just because they cannot stand the shame of marrying an older woman. They end up in the hands of these younger girls who are yet to understand what love truly is. This is one of the reasons why we see failed marriages in Africa today. A marriage does not need to end in divorce before we can acknowledge that it has failed. Once the partners are no longer feeling the love, the marriage is as good as failed. A marriage without love is like a car without an engine. Age should not be used as the basis for love at any time because love can happen to whom it chooses to happen.

Take a look at the video below and tell me what you think.

Love should be allowed to flow freely like the ocean...