Nearly three thousand years ago, a group of men cut trees along a river when the head of the ax flew from the handle of one of its shoulders and fell into the water. The man to whom this happened was very upset and exclaimed, “Oh, my lord, for it was borrowed! Yes, it meant a lot more to the unfortunate tree cutter than if it was his own ax head, because now he could not return what he borrowed.
What a difference from what many borrowers think today! When they borrow something, instead of worrying more about it belonging to someone else, they often feel less. Therefore, a man can return an instrument in worse condition than when he borrowed it. A student or a book lover can borrow a book and make a mess or worse. From time to time you will find a book in a public library that a borrower wrote down or even cut off one or more pages.
Many others show bad borrowing habits by not returning what they borrowed.Do you? A man may borrow a garden tool or an automatic tool from his neighbor and not return it. Or a housewife can borrow a vase, a pot or a broom and forget everything. A young man can borrow a coat or umbrella and not return it.
What is behind these bad borrowing habits? Did the borrower intend to keep what he borrowed? Probably not, even if some people borrow it simply because they do not want to bear the cost or responsibility of owning a particular item. So it's a human weakness? Ease? Or is it really a form of selfishness? IIt surely is a failure to do to others as you would have others do to you.Not repaying what you borrowed puts the person in bad company.
As a general rule, it is best not to be willing to borrow, although there may be exceptions in an emergency. If it is not an emergency or a necessity, it may be better to do without it.But if you are borrowing, show yourself that you are a principled person.
First and foremost, it's a question of who you borrow from. It should not be a casual acquaintance; You need to have more in common except that the person has something you need. In this regard, it seems reasonable to warn not to unreasonably abuse the friendship shared.
So be careful what you borrow. Avoid borrowing something that cannot be replaced, such as a rare or valuable item, or something that the owner has sentimental value.
Also, make sure that you repay what you borrowed and do so immediately. If the lender does specify a specific time, you must follow it.
What should you do when you want to return something but discover that the lender is not home? Do not leave it on the door or in the garden.Take it back when the lender is home to thank him/her personally. Or if you have repeatedly borrowed something from your neighbor and now want to pick it up again and he is not home, what can you do? Can you help yourself? No, unless she/he have explicitly stated that you can.
Knowing that you are paying for what you borrowed creates good relationships. Helping you in this regard is a sense of responsibility for what you borrow. Show that you appreciate the benefit by not only repaying what you borrowed quickly but also making sure that it is in the same condition as it was borrowed in, if not better. You may have borrowed some clothes; Why not show your gratitude by washing or drying them before returning them? If you borrow an instrument, make sure it is clean and sharp and in as good or even better condition than when you borrowed it. Are you a mom who sometimes asks for sugar, eggs, butter or anything else that was left unintentionally due to circumstances? So show your gratitude by not only paying back what you borrowed at the first opportunity but by adding a little more - whether it is cakes, fruit or sweets - to complete. You can really strengthen your friendship by returning with interest,for such shows appreciation, and people like to do things for those who show appreciation.
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