Have you ever had a conversation with someone who talked about all the things they could’ve done that feels good about them ? It’s almost like they give themselves credit foraspiring to do something.
In fact, that’s exactly what we all do. The idea of potential is seductive because you never have to leave that fantasy. You’d think taking action that will move your goals, would be the ultimate feeling, but the pursuit of goals has one huge caveat..... It might not work
When you live in Potentialville you can bask in the glory of your aspirations. This works for a while until you get stuck there.
Then, you realize you’ve wasted time. Those aspirations turn to regrets. You look back on your life and think, “This is it? This is all I’ve done?”
To remedy this, try accepting this concept — maybe you’re not supposed to feel great about yourself all the time.
Maybe you could try harder, do better, take more risk, stand taller, be bigger and bolder, and go from potential to kinetic. Maybe self-acceptance isn’t what you need to focus on right now.
This isn’t to say you should beat yourself up, but your situation might not change until you stop pretending it’s ideal when it’s not.
Once you step outside your comfort zone, you realize feeling good about yourself isn’t the only thing that matters.
Working out doesn’t always feel good, but it makes you stronger and healthier. It’s a good metaphor for life. You’ll go through stress, trial, and tribulations on the way to doing “the thing,” but you’ll be stronger because of it, regardless of whether or not it pans out the way you want it to.
Enough with the positive thinking. Doing more — and feeling all the negativity and turbulence that comes with it — might be a better solution.
Nice post